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Who had trouble getting their dc's to go back to school today/yesterday?

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Marne · 05/01/2011 11:56

Poor dd2 really didn't want to go to school this morning, we had crying, kicking, screeming and begging Sad. Luckily dh is home so helped me get her into school, her 1:1 was there to help and they managed to drag her of dh (while i watched from a distance) and distracted her with a puzzle. Dd1 was also crying because dd2 was upset and she stayed with her whilst they calmed dd2 down.

One good thing did come ou of all the fuss, dd2 used sentances to get her point across (usually uses single words), she clearly said 'i don't want to go to school' and 'take dd1 to school, take dd2 to toysrus' Grin. She can clearly communicate when she needs to.

Fingers crossed she manages a full day at school and i hope tomorrow is easier.

Did anyone else have problems with the first day back?

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TheArsenicCupCake · 05/01/2011 12:16

Not going into school but I'm half waiting for 'the phone call'. And the boom when ds gets home :( fingers crossed huh ?

Sorry it was a horrid start to the day for you but.. Whoop whoop on the sentances! :) that's a bit good!

cory · 05/01/2011 13:32

I failed. Dd put her back out yesterday and now has a migraine. She has been ill over most of the hols anyway and was ill before they started.

ouryve · 05/01/2011 13:33

Were you at my house, this morning? I had all that, too. I turned off DS1's DS when he was in the middle of a race (he'd had all the turn it off please countdowns and warnings and then started a new race anyhow) so he was yelling at me that I'd ruined his day and he never wanted to go into Y2 ever again, all the way to school. I left him curled up on a ball on the floor of the Children's Centre.

DS2 was grins all morning, from the moment I put his uniform on him, and really happy to get there. He didn't even give a hoot that his brother was so upset. He's used to it.

wasuup3000 · 05/01/2011 13:45

Me, tears, tantrums, pains in joints ect the works and again today loads of fun!

wasuup3000 · 05/01/2011 13:45

O and she spent all day yesterday asking her TA to go home because she was ill....

lisad123isasnuttyasaboxoffrogs · 05/01/2011 13:48

yep had horrible evening last night and terrible morning of tears and meltdowns. :(
They also decided to tell her she'll be getting new teacher after east too Hmm always helpful!

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Marne · 05/01/2011 13:55

Dd2 did'nt last the day, i had a phone call at 12 asking to come and pick her up, they had managed to calm her down and thought it was best not to push their luck on making her stay all day, she was pleased when i picked her up but expected a trip to the toy shop as promissed by mummy in her moment of panic this morning. We will see what tomorrow brings.

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wasuup3000 · 05/01/2011 13:55

Yesterday was her worst day ever and it was all my fault because I had made her go to school...

wasuup3000 · 05/01/2011 13:56

Aww Marne my DD was trying it on all day but the year head stayed firm.

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Marne · 05/01/2011 14:01

wasuup- your dd sounds like my dd1, she always blames me for ruining her day. I think dd2 has forgiven me (until tomorrow).

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tryingtokeepintune · 05/01/2011 14:02

Ds was not looking forward to it at all. Tried saying - ds will not go to school this Weds but next Weds. When that did not succeed, it was - ds will come back before school dinner. His eczema has started again - sigh.

brandy77 · 05/01/2011 14:47

I havent managed to yet my 6year old into school yesterday or today. yesterday i got beaten, bitten, headbutted, got him into the car barefoot and didnt even attempt to get him out at school. today i didnt even bother attempting as it would have been a rerun of yesterday.

can i ask please how you get yours in, am i being too soft? should i literally carry him in barefoot and leave him kicking and screaming? turn and walk away? the staff before when hes not been half that bad have told me to take him home and not even let him in.

have to say ive had a very unstressful day today, i did make him wear his uniform at home and told him school ends at 3 so he would have to work at home, which he did really well actually BUT i dont want to home ed him

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Marne · 05/01/2011 14:50

Its so hard, dh had to cary dd2 in and help me get her shoes on, she's only 4.9 so still easy(ish) to pick up and put in the car. I am useless at it as i get upset with her which is why today dh took over.

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brandy77 · 05/01/2011 14:57

hi marne, my son is small as hes growth hormone deficient BUT hes extremely strong when angry and im here on my own with him so no one to help. verbally hes just started screaming the bad words yesterday which is a whole new thing. problem is, i know the school wouldnt take him in kicking and screaming anyway so i dont know what to do for the best.

I have got to ring the teacher at 3oc so perhaps il ask her if i bring him in kicking and screaming will they take him and see what they say, its really hard work and stressful isnt it.x

brandy77 · 05/01/2011 15:04

only problem with carrying him the 50yards or so into school kicking and screaming would be that he would put my back out and i wouldnt be able to do the night shift with him Sad

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Marne · 05/01/2011 16:54

Is there anyone who could help you take him in? I hope you managed to talk to the school, you need some kind of plan to try and get him in thats not too upsetting for either of you. We dragged dd2 in today because we are hoping after a few days she will settle and go in of her own free will, if it becomes a every day thing then i think we will need to re-think things.

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brandy77 · 05/01/2011 17:01

no theres no one to help marne, his father and i are not not together and he works full time and hes a bit ueseless too be honest! my mum has offered to come round but shes nearing 70 and although quite fit i wouldnt want her to get an injury and be laid up for days. think il have to see what the morning brings, absolutely dreading it because even as hes eating his meal tonight hes telling his teenage brother that he hates school and is never going again. good luck for tomorow to you.xx

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Marne · 05/01/2011 18:50

If i didn't have dh i would be stuck (no other friends or family close), dh is now in bed ill so i'm worried he wont be well enough to help me get dd2 there tomorrow. How old is your other ds? could he help? (even if it means him being late for school). Dd1 was really helpful this morning, they are in the same class so she stayed with her when we left and helped look after her all morning.

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brandy77 · 05/01/2011 19:30

mmm i have a 16 year old doing his gcses and he leaves at 7.45am, my youngest has an agreement to start 10.40am as his medical probs cause tiredness so first thing in the morning hes generally laid about then perks up a bit. I have told him hes going tomorow, hes saying NOT, ive tried bribery...that he will get his Wii machine back (took away y.day when he didnt go school) and il go to town and get him a laser gun! hes not bothered, he would rather go without. think i need to resign myself to the fact like you i will have a battle to start the day, hey ho! xx

mariamagdalena · 05/01/2011 20:04

How about bribery that fits the problem?
Go in at 10.40, stay till 12, mum will pick you up. Kick and scream means stay till 3.30pm. You can work on a longer stay later.

brandy77 · 05/01/2011 20:20

yes thats a good idea maria, i dont know wether the school would let me call the shots like that though? i personally think even if hes in for an hour its better than nothing and the EWO said that before xmas. fingers crossed. il see how he is when he wakes and then tell him just till lunchtime if hes anti about going in, thankyou.x

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Marne · 05/01/2011 21:41

Good luck.

Deffently ask about him just staying for an hour or so (thats what we are doing), an hour is better than nothing. We used bribery as a last resort (a trio to the toy shop) as dd2 will now expect this every day.

She went to bed saying 'no school' so i think i will have a battle on my hands tomorrow, just hope i can hold it together enough to get her in.

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mariamagdalena · 05/01/2011 22:41

if the school won't let you, book a dental appointment Wink

brandy77 · 06/01/2011 07:48

lol maria

marne, its kicked off her already Sad

hes screamed at me that hes not going, full face screaming. explained its only an hour, he asked how long an hour was, told him its when the ringer goes off on his kitchen timer (it goes up to one hour) he screamed theres no way hes staying at school that long. god its a nightmare, my teen has made it worse by shouting out "you are going to school", that set him off even more. hes watching tele now, i havent said hes not going so il leave it for an hour and mention again. then im gona have to force him, really hard to dress him though when hes so squirmy and lashing out and its very distressing but feel i gotta do it. good luck marne.x

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Marne · 06/01/2011 08:25

We are trying the 'not saying the S word aproach' Grin.

She has asked to go to toysrus once when she was her uniform but i ignored it. Managed to do her hair, get all the school bags in the car so i just need to get her in the car (not looking forward to it).

Stick at it brandy, i hope you manage to get him there (fingers crossed for both of us).

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