Yule.. You need everything in writing.. So if you have had a phone call from school you ask them to put it in writing to you.. Clarify your understanding of calls / speaking to teacher in writing... Ask for a coppy of her full and complete educational and SEN files and records.
Ask school in writing to record all incidents regarding your daughter.
And start making a complete file up.
Get a rereferal to camhs...
And also ask the school to put in writing what provision they have already put in and how this is measured.
Then apply for SA as your dds needs are not being met... Oh also you want a copy of .. Sen code of practice.. It's free ( have a google and you'll get the phone number to call).
You can also speak to ipsea or ace.
ask for an appointment with the head teacher and senco.. In writing!.. Ask for that meeting to be minuted or take patent partnership with you.. If you are not happy that your concerns have been taken seriously.. You then write to the clerk of the governors..you will also have an SEN govenor.
You can call the lea and ask for the sen inclusion officer for either primary or secondary and get a named person at the lea that you can go to when needed.. If you look on your counties website you should be able to find a name for the head of this department..it's always good to have a name!
I'll leave you with that at the moment as it's quite a list to work through.. But if you want to start kicking butt you need names and a paper trail!
Hth