computer manage to delete longer version so this is abridge, feeling v. fed up so not writing all again.
But in summary had a meeting (not usual paed), only interested in son'r progress at school, not interested in escalated behaviour at home. I had qu's, but no response, but answers i got were NAS and OT (did that myself 2 months ago, on v. long waiting list). All children do that.
No advice on need for touch, violence to brother, repetitive words, sound senstivity, quirky behaviour, consipation, need to be in control, deep hugs, etc...
Thousands of pounds education, qualified... to send me to a charity. More info from chat with friends! Was i expecting to much, wanting advice to help ds.