I am a crap mum, useles crap

[2shoes]

I feel like the shittest crap mum.
dd had an appointment, just an eye test, involves looking a pictures, nothing bad.
so I went and got her from class and took her along, I had it arranged that she wouldn't have to wait long, as sometimes they run over and she kicks of as it is lunch time......
well would she cooperate.........would she fuck.
she just flailed around shouting and kicking off.
nothing I said or did made it work.
in the end she calmed down and did half of it..
so now she has to go back in December and see the consultant.
(I have asked for someone from the respite place to come with me)
I feel like shit, normally she is so good and happy, then this..........

You're not a bad mam! Don't be so hard on yourself.

Could there be a reason behind this? Is she coming down with something maybe or was she not expecting to go today?

no I had told her.
she is 15 by the way. should have put that in post, I don't think she likes me appearing and taking her out of class. she is ok if it staff that do it.

Oh 2shoes, you're not a crap mum.

I know how you.feel though - especially when its something you thought was going to go ok...

Hope it goes better next time.

Has dd told you.why she was being cooperative?

she can't talk, and once she gets upset/angry there is no reasoning with her

I know how old she is :)

She is a teenager, maybe she is just having a teenager moment :) Hope she is ok once she finishes school today.

is it those grey cards with the white line drawings on them, train, duck etc?
Shes probably fed up looking at them by now ds was and he's only 6, wish they could get some more age appropriate pics for the older kids.

yes it was, she is usually ok doing it, but did lol at them, maybe I should suggest pics of blink 182 instead

Not crap. Seriously.

"normally she is so good and happy," you see , you clearly are NOT a crap mum!

oh I must tell you about the boots....
I got her a pair of boots, the slouchy type, turned out to be a big mistake as her foot kept coming out of them, not good as she was in her chair.
so after the school complaining(nicely) I got her a new pair, bright Red, sort of doc marten like, boots, she loves them so much she cuddled them :o

Crap mums don't buy cool boots!

You are most definitely not a crap mum, don't ever ever think that ever again.
Kids have their grumpy days (I know mine does); sometimes we can identify a trigger and do things differently, sometimes that's just the way the day went.
I was thinking of getting myself slouchy boots, but the red doc marten ones sound way cooler!

Don't blame yourself!
I dont think I'd have wanted to look at ducks and trains at 15 either. I can guess how it made you feel though - Ds struggles with me turning up in school - had a massive wobbly infront of the paediatrician - he wanted to play with ( the contents my handbag.
Boots sound great!

Chocoholic summed it up - cool mum.

If you a crap Mum you wouldnt care! Dont beat yourself up about it - it happens to all of us.

not a crap mum

i would more say dd haveing a stroppy teenage moment and just not wanting mum around

I love that , I will call her Kevin tonight:o

The boots sound cool! Hope Kevin likes them

kevin is a happy bunny(ok we have had the teeth cleaning fight)

Definitely not a crap mum, hope you are feeling better....has Kevin gone to bed all right?

well......she has had her melatonin, but as Ds's gf is staying over, she is a bit over excited......

I like the sound of the boots :)

she is sleeping:o
thanks for all the replies, it really helped, it is not often I am reduced to near tears, but this did it to me.
am dreading taking her to the opticians to pick frames tomorrow(I have been in and selected 2 to counteract the tantrum) but will bribe her with clothes/book/ money........