Would this comment about my daughter's DLA and autism annoy anyone else?

[Momof3boys2girls]

Would this annoy anyone else at all or am I just literally reading too much into it

My daughter who’s 15 when I had taken her to her appointment at the hospital her consultant had picked up on autistic traits and how socially awkward she is.
He raised concerns about this and advised to get in contact with the school to refer to the right agencies to get her the help and support she needs. I honestly felt bad as I just thought she was socially awkward and just didn’t enjoy being around people she’s the same with family she doesn’t communicate and literally hides behind me.
School got a specialist advisory teacher in to see her and he agrees that she’s autistic amongst other medical issues she has

On the off chance I applied for Dla for her medical issues - arfid, therapy she self harms and I have to keep a constant eye on her and have to spend more weekly on food due to her not like the smell texture etc of food.
She’s in and out hospital appointments with gynaecology.
With the help and support of the school as she struggles with going in and being in a classroom full of kids they’ve put an IEP in place and given her a reduced timetable.
Now when making the decision for Dla they had phoned the school and spoke to her support and she explained how she is perfectly and now she’s been awarded.

This friend of mine asked about it and I said yeah she gets it and now she’s saying oh but she was fine before what’s changed now.

Would it annoy you if someone considered you a friend to say something like this as it felt like she was having a dig.

Yes, it is annoying and shows a lack of understanding. I would think about who you are discussing things like DLA with in the future.

As an aside, has an EHCNA been requested? And if DD can’t attend school full-time is alternative provision in place?

There is a huge lack of understanding when it comes to claiming DLA, particularly for ND children.

I'd probably not share with anyone else, as your opening up conversations you don't really need to have. You know your DD is entitled to it, she's been assessed and awarded it so the DWP know she's entitled to it. Nobody else is actually entitled to an opinion on it.

I’ve been quite good friends with her as all our kids have gone through school together and I’ve helped her a hell of a lot with her kids when she’s struggled etc.

I just don’t get why the negative comment on it id never say anything negative to her about it. She’s done a MR for her sons renewal at the same time I was applying for my daughter so I helped her sort through all the evidence for her to send in etc

I’ve literally fought tooth and nail for my daughter. She’s had specialist advisory teacher come in to see her. In the process of having inclusion support in to see her she’s due her assessment for add in 2 weeks. She’s on a reduced timetable at school and she’s in a study Center within the school with 2 other students.

she’s got a lot of medical as well. She’s in and out of appointments at the hospital therapy as she’s not coping with anxiety and has SH in the past and is showing signs that she’s trying to do so again so I’m constantly in and out her room and keeping an eye on her