hi all, just managed to find this and read replies.....thanks all.
very sorry i not come here sooner....the kiddies and i were all involved in a nasty car accident on 22nd oct (not our fault, a rather stupid man decided that he could come out of a side road and round a bus to go down another side road without thinking there may be a car on the other side of said bus. head on collision, injuries etc.....hence I not been here until a few days ago and forgot about flame setting up thread for me!)
anyhoo.....DD2 dyslexia.
as flame has said we have had crap support from schools etc.
I pulled all DC's out of their previous school as the responce for me asking for help with DD2 (when I commented that I could never understand her writing) was ''to get into the worl of DD2"!!!! I mean WTF, I have to get into her world???? Surely SHE needs to get into OUR world...........
well, anyway, I pulled them out, but then had the fight in the next school. Tp be fair to them tho, it wasn't really their fault that things went so slowly. previous school failed to send up notes, then claimed they had, then claimed they were lost, blah blah blah.
new school in the meantime set up IEP's and extra help, and then when it came to her SAT's set up a reader for the maths and science papers and a scriber for the english paper. She got level 4's, which I am sooooooo proud of as with all her probs I never expected..
It did go in her favour tho as when the lady came out to see her she said it kind of prooved there was a problem as she clearly had normal understanding making the reading and spelling difficulties more obvious (IYGWIM).
the only prob we then had was that they refused to test her until she went up to secondary school as they said it would be easier to get her the correct help there. I was sooooo angry as i felt she would slip thro the cracks once there but heyho, what could I do, I was only a parent......!.
well, they did indeed carry out promise to test, she is REALLY BADLY behind, as flame said, age ranges for different things go from 5 1/2 to 8yrs, made me cry! BUT, and here is the bad part, she needs to be in the worst 2% to be statemented and she is in the worst 3%.
Having said that tho, she is on school action plus, school have also given her a tutor who comes to our home for almost 2hrs a week (so pleased with that I have to say), and she has a helper in certain classes.
we have also taken her to an optomotrist(?spelling?), who DX poor muscle control as well as upping her glasses prescription (ooh, and did you know, apparently it is more common for dyslexics to be long sighted and need glasses too?? I never did!)
she has since had lots of therapy (eye gym as she calls it), and her focus distancing has upped from 7 to 10 (she needs to be 12 for her age).
problem now is all the cost. It was £60 for initial assessment for her eyes, then £20 per wk for eye gym (6wks worth). we now need to find another £30 for the next test, then £40 after that for something else. new glasses cost £50 has we had used her NHS voucher in specsavers (even tho they were wrong in the prescription but that is another rant), and we also need £60 for a special program for her PC.
grandparent so far are helping (fab people), but surely they shouldn't have to.
the LEA DX her, told us what we HAD to do regarding eyes, PC programs etc, then assume we can pay! we would find it should we have had to, it is her education at the end of the day and therefore hugely important, but WHY. she is a child who was ignored for several years and now it is down to us to make right something they should have started helping with when I said she had a problem. she would never be so far behind now had they listened back then !!!!
and what makes all so much worse now is that it is clear to me that DS1 has similar issues yet when I asked for help they fobbed me off AGAIN. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
and sooooooooooo sorry this is so long. thankyou for reading should you have stuck with me