Teenager with SEN & Boyfriends

[Girlwithnoname1]

My dd who is 13, has just started a specialist SEN school, they’re fab, and I wish we’d have started from year 7 really, after years of her being shunned & struggling in mainstream.
Dd has a whole host of difficulties, starting with ataxia (wobbly) to hearing loss, and vision issues, as well as learning difficulties and a very slow processing speed. She’s emotionally more like a 9 year old than a 13 year old .

Now, she’s a very very pretty girl, she’s done quite a bit of modelling work, and since starting this school she’s had a lot of attention from boys, which hadn’t really happened in her last school. One in particular, texts her constantly, and asks her not to speak to other boys, half the time she doesn’t understand what he’s saying.
I know I need to allow her a certain amount of freedom, and to do things normal teenagers do, but I’m so scared. She’s so so vulnerable. Anyone got any advice?? I’m so out of my depth here.

So she's in a SEN school so that means other children will have all sorts of difficulties and may not be able to calibrate suitable emotional responses plus in the rage of teenage boy hormones. I think you have a duty of care to your daughter and the boy to speak to staff because they could tackle this with the lad in phse sessions and also your daughter in how she feels about all of this. If this lad has become a bit obsessed with your daughter and it is making her feel uncomfortable, then it needs addressing.

Speak to school

This will not be the first time they have dealt with it and there are a whole host of resources they have access to focussing on relationships, appropriate touch, keeping safe online etc