Teacher is worried about my 3.9 yr old DS.

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My DS(3) has just started school nursery and his teacher is worried about a few things.

He does not play with other children and tends to go to activities where there aren't any other children.

He also struggles with change. E.g going into the hall when he knows they don't usually go.

I worry about the change thing as should I need to change the routine e.g nip to the supermarket after school pick up it results in a major meltdown.

His teacher is going to get someone in after Xmas to have a look at him. He currently works in a group with another boy who has extra support and she watched him and noted his inability to mix.

Does this point to an Autism Spectrum Disorder?

Advice would be gratefully received.

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Maybe, maybe not. What is good is that a possible issue has been picked up and your DS can receive the help and support he needs (regardless of whether this leads to a diagnosis). If it is ASD early intervention is key. My DS was diagnosed at just before 4. He is now nearly 10 and progressing so, so well. I am sure early help and support is the reason why. I hope all goes well for you.

It's hard to say really. The things you mention can be be indicative of asd and if the teacher has picked up on some issues then then it is always a good thing to investigate. Doesn't necessarily mean you are on the path to receiving an asd diagnosis though. The special needs children's board on mn is full of great support and advice.

Did you have any concerns prior to the teacher mentioning anything?

Sorry just realised thisis in special educational needs,, meant to say special needs children topic gets a lot more traffic so you may want to repost there

how's his hearing? severe glue ear can lead to social difficulty and rigid routines and even if there is more to it than that making sure they can hear so they can access the support they need is also crucial - rule out phsyical difficulty too

Thank you.

He can hear well. He hears a biscuit tin opening at 20 paces!

I am thinking of getting his eyes tested though.

It's mainly the rigid routine thing that's worrying me.

I haven't witnessed the not playing with other children. As he mixes well with the children I child mind for. And he plays with his big bro - lots if pretend games.

School/nursery hearing with back ground noise is very different to home hearing - ds's hearing wasn't picked up till School, he just couldn't cope with the background noise, we didn't see any problem at all

Thank you. I am waiting for his teacher to decide whether to refer him after Christmas. And get the SENCO involved.

His pre-school wrote about not mixing on his transition notes (don't know whether I've said this before).

I am trying not to worry.

But he has always been so difficult from being a baby. With his feeding, sleeping - waking in the night distressed, having tantrums if he was accidentally woken at night.
He is just soooo stubborn. And is difficult to discipline. He is starting to get a little bit aggressive and showing his fists and sometimes punching his brother , me and one of my mindees and he says you're an idiot and you're stupid (at home)
I need to sort this out obviously and ensure it doesn't spill over into school.

It might just be a strong and wilful personality. Apparently FIL was like this at the same age, and his DM couldn't do anything with him abd he was put in full time school early (he's 67 now) My DS isn't on that level. But he's blooming hard work!