Hi posted on the south Asian thread as it's more common to live with extended family/In-laws.
I always see quotes about "life is too short to be unhappy, if people don't like you for who you are change the people etc"
I know life is short to be around people who have hurt you but what if you're in a situation where you can't change your husband family or can't get away from them. Also it's so much harder when you have children and these people who have treated you badly.
How do you cope mentally not torturing yourself reliving and spiralling on the horrible things in-laws have said to you?
Before you ask my husband does help and has shown a united from supporting me which has made our relationship stronger. Bit it doesn't take away the trauma I have experienced and that still lives in me