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Noodledoodledoo · 01/12/2017 22:08
Hi. I started SW back in August, have always felt the consultant has an issue with me. Ignored this week she did everyones weight loss except mine, comments I make always shut down and criticised, on tasting week ask all except me who had bought things in about them and the recipe etc.
I did think I was being paranoid but this week when she did everyone elses weight loss but mine, including the others who had won awards - I got my 1.5 stone award, it has made me wonder.
Would love to switch classes but opted for this one as its the only one locally that works with children etc.
Its just making me hate going along to meetings which I find a huge help, but also makes me feel rubbish each week.
I have a theory its because I had an issue with a friend of hers (discovered with some facebook stalking!) completely unrelated to meeting.
Not sure how to address it. I know I need to go to the meetings to do well - have tried and failed on online before.
00100001 · 01/12/2017 22:09
Talk to her
00100001 · 01/12/2017 22:10
Just go with facts. Ask her why you didn't get your award etc
Presumably you're paying her, so she needs to step up
Noodledoodledoo · 01/12/2017 22:11
I don't find her very approchable, and has a definite clique of members.
jmscp2015 · 01/12/2017 22:12
Just go to a different group. It’s easy to transfer and I wouldn’t want to be giving a penny of my money to somebody so petty.
She’s meant to be there to support you, that’s what your paying for.
Find a lovely new group and a lovely new consultant.
Noodledoodledoo · 01/12/2017 22:13
I am paying her now, for the first 12 weeks I was a NHS referral so wondered if it was that.
I got the award but in a very cursory manner, the other lady getting her 1.5 stone got loads of praise and chat.
Noodledoodledoo · 01/12/2017 22:16
As I said sadly all the other local groups don't work time wise, husband not home from work early enough for their start times or clash with my little ones classes in the week. =(
Everyone else has nothing but praise for her and how amazing she is.
qwertyberty · 02/12/2017 00:09
Things you could do,if you are assertive enough.
- If she total ignore your weight loss at the end (just before raffles is done)speak up and say in front of the class that she missed you and has done a few times.
- Ask to speak to her after the group session by herself. Express your feelings about it.
- Contact head office/complaints and express your concerns. There is a contact us button on the slimming world page.
Personally I would chat with her and see if that resolves the issue. Give it a month then if she going back to the old ways contact Slimming World. But I would also start speaking up if you are being ignored and also any sly comments she makes address in front of people, by asking what she means by them.
I wouldn't mentioned the friend thing and act shocked if she mentioned it.
pandorawithtreaclecolouredhair · 02/12/2017 15:26
Great advice from qwertyberty: your Consultant sounds very unprofessional, and it's a shame that she is being allowed to affect your enjoyment of group and your progress.
OwlinaTree · 02/12/2017 19:48
Some people bring their children to the meetings where I go and no one seems to mind. Would that be an option to get to a different group?
Noodledoodledoo · 03/12/2017 17:59
Thanks all - will keep a note of 'issues' and then speak to her. Would love to call her out on it publically but as I said she is loved by everyone else so would not get any support as such.
Sadly the other group I could go to is at 7pm so slap bang at my childrens bedtime (3yr and 1yr old) so would not suit bringing them along - the daytime one locally to me (and different consultant as mine does 4 classes) clashes with my little ones music class.
It's quite bizarre and I do feel I am being a bit paranoid!
Noodledoodledoo · 03/12/2017 18:00
There was also another week when the slimmer of the week was awarded to someone who had lost 3 lbs and I had lost 3.5lbs and lost the week before - a fellow member said to me shouldn't that be you and I just shrugged it off!
ShapelyBingoWing · 05/12/2017 10:59
Calling her out on things doesn't have to be confrontational...you could just 'cheekily' and pointedly say "oh X, I think you might have missed one" and let her flap to correct it. Or in the case of the slimmer of the week stuff, a disappointed "damn, I thought it might be me this week" should do the trick. But do point it out in front of people. A few flappy moments might just be enough to get her to do what she's paid to do.
If that doesn't work, you need to grow a set of brass balls. Simply ask for a chat at the end of group and state, bold as brass, that you don't feel supported by her and you feel she treats you differently. Give her some examples.
And if it continues past that point tgen you'll need to put a complaint in.
I know youve said you don't find her approachable but you have very few options if you can't switch groups and don't do well on your own. This needs fixing.
Adarsta · 24/12/2017 14:46
Just an alternate point of view...
The slimmer of the week goes to the person who loses the greatest percentage of body fat. A smaller person losing 3lb could lose more than a larger person losing 3.5lb.
If she gets on with everyone else, maybe she feels you are wary of her and respects that. My consultant talks more to some people than others as some are shy or don't want to talk in the group much and others do. Maybe you should make sure you are interacting with her in a positive manner and see if she responds. I certainly wouldn't report her. You've had issues with her friend and now issues with her. It might be worth thinking about why you are having issues with different people. I agree you should talk to her as she might be able to explain but if everyone likes her, be careful not to alienate yourself. Hope this helps.
excitedforxmas17 · 24/12/2017 14:50
Adarsta, I don't think that's correct. In all SW sessions I've been in SOTW has been awarded to the person who lost the most, as long as they maintained or lost the previous week. Nothing about % of body fat.
OP, I'm sorry your consultant is so horrible to you. I had a similar issue - felt the consultant was a bit of a bully and she humiliated me in front of the entire group, so I ended up switching groups. More fool her.
Adarsta · 24/12/2017 15:13
It is right as two of us lost the same amount and I got it so I asked the consultant as I didn't want to deprive the other person and she explained it.
Groovee · 25/12/2017 23:01
The tablet tells me who is SOW or SOM. I click the buttons when weigh is closed and it tells you. But I wonder if the weigh person doesn't remember your name and thinks you have gone and then gives it to the next person? It might be worth asking x
shakeyourcaboose · 25/12/2017 23:09
Sorry but feel i have to...adarsta are you the consultant or fb friend?!
Adarsta · 26/12/2017 10:06
Neither. It is very easy to jump on the band wagon and castigate the consultant. None of us know her or the OP. The SOW is told by the computer and usually done by the social team and it is done on percentage lost so was probably correct. I just think it might help the OP to realise that she probably shouldn't have been SOW and so not feel aggrieved. Sometimes an alternate point of view is helpful rather than encouraging the OP to feel annoyed and this issue to get more than it is.
GoldenBlue · 26/12/2017 13:08
Adastra you are wrong, slimmer of the week is not based on % weight loss, it is based on actual weight loss. You must have lost or maintained in the previous week. If 2 or more people have the same result then it is shared. The tablet tells the leader the result. Either there is an issue with the tablet or the class leader is deliberately doing something wrong.
Adarsta · 26/12/2017 14:28
I'm not arguing about this. I only know when we had the same case this was the answer from SW.
pandorawithtreaclecolouredhair · 27/12/2017 16:30
I attend a large group, and the fruit basket is shared by the number of Slimmers of the Week who have stayed to group.
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