My own stupid fault really, but help would be appreciated...

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My DD, who is 22 months old, has developed some sleep issues and it is starting to drive me up the wall. It is my own fault really - she had that horribly sniffly cold and couldn't sleep. I decided it would be easier on both of us if I just took her in bed with me (daddy is working away). The one night turned into four and now she will not sleep in her cot anymore. I feel really stupid because after co-sleeping for a year it took months to get her into her own room, and now we seem to be back to square one, or worse!

She goes down happily enough, cuddles Pooh Bear and snuggles under the duvet, but within ten minutes is standing up and calling for me. Which if ignored turns into crying, which if ignored turns into screaming. She will do this all night, with intervals ranging from five minutes to half an hour. All night. So neither of us are sleeping for more than half an hour at a time. I have tried leaving her to sort herself out, but she will scream and scream until I go in and lie her down - as if she can't do it on her own anymore! And that is all she wants; lying back down and covering up.

I don't really know if I'm doing the right thing - do I go to her or let her cry? Has anyone else had this problem?

What happens if you just lie down with her/stay with her til she is asleep?

Cos I sort of tried the whole 'night night' and pop out and sometimes it works with ds, but I think it is too light at the moment. So I 'gave up' and now just lie next to him til he is asleep, he sometimes wakes at night and comes in to me (I put him back/sometimes stay) but often sleeps through (well, wakes EARLY).

He is 21mths too.

Go with the flow/what feels right/is easiest. It all changes SO quickly, honestly.

(I have a dd too, and vowed to just go with it, the co-sleeping/feeding to sleep etc this time - whaddya know, ds sleeps much better )

She goes to sleep fine, it only takes a couple of minutes. And during the night she is asleep again as soon as I lie her back down. I have tried giving her nurofen in case it is pain that keeps waking her up, but to no avail!

Am currently pumping up airbed in case I end up sleeping next to the cot tonight! I have vowed not to have her sleeping in my bed again!

Hang on, re-read your post. She is having a phase where she wakes up all night? Gosh, poor you, I'd just have her in with me tbh (though I am v lazy). Airbed good idea if you have vowed not to have her in with you (I sleep in ds's bed A LOT )

for a cold - have you got olbas oil? It really works.

for teething, I swear by liquid Anbesol. Is strong stuff but numbs it instantly.

(ps please don't beat yourself up about it. They are children not robots. It's not your fault. Dd is 4 and finally sleeps ok, but still has nightmares occasionally, or her duvet falls off, or she needs a wee or... )

Hey, DS1 is 27m and either DH or I usually end up spending half the night in his room more often than not. We have a good stretch of maybe a week or two, then it'll be a cold/illness/new molar/nightmare/absolutely no reason whatsover and we're back to square one.

We have a bed, duvet, pillows, calpol, teething sachets and water in his room always on standby. Only reason we don't bring him into our bed is DS2 is asleep in a cot next to us so we don't want him to wake up and for us all to have a 3am party