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is it safe for me to sleep on the floor with 8wk DD?

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olivo · 13/10/2009 08:12

I'd much rather not, i have to say. I have been co sleeping with DD in our king size bed while DH has been sleeping on a mattress on her floor. he is desperate (to the point of making himself and us very miserable) for a decent night's sleep and i was going to get him to sleep in our bed tonight and i will go with DD into her room. but if i sleep on the floor, can she safely sleep next to me on a playmat or something? normally she is swaddled or in a sleeping bag on top of my mattress.
any other advice gratefully received!

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ChopsTheDuck · 13/10/2009 08:17

Tell you husband to bugger off!

Why can't your dd sleep in a cot?

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clayre · 13/10/2009 08:18

why cant you all sleep in the bed?

littleducks · 13/10/2009 08:19

you have a coy but baby doesnt like it?
either put cot matteress on floor and baby sleep like that/take one side off cot and push next to your bed to make a bedside cot

Alibooobaandthe40phantoms · 13/10/2009 08:24

Why aren't you all in the bed?

If you are going to keep this as a long term arrangement then you should look into getting a sofa bed to replace your sofa so that your husband is at least getting proper sleep.

Chops - why should the husband bugger off? He is as entitled to a decent night's sleep as anyone else!

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olivo · 13/10/2009 08:27

DD started off sleeping in a moses basket in my room and i would take her into bed to feed but it became easier for her to sleep with me. DH hasnt slept in our bed since the last couple of months of my pg - it suited us both. He is genuinely suffering from insomnia but not helped as he is sleeping on a cheap mattress on the floor and he has tried all kinds of things to help him sleep -from old wives tales to medication but to no avail, it is seriously impacting on his nad my health but he will not go to a dr.

i havent tried dd in th cot,that is in her room, doesnt fit in ours.
maybe i could go on the floor and have her on the cotbed mattress next to me? would that be safe? I am exhauasted with having a 3 yo who also gets up in the night and just trying to do what is best for us all to stay sane!

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MaMight · 13/10/2009 08:28

Your husband will get a good night's sleep in a king size bed while his wife and baby daughter sleep on the floor . Says a lot for his priorities.

If you can't all sleep in the big bed (why not?) then get him an air bed or a spare bed or something.

Outrageous that he would turn you out of the bed for his own comfort.

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olivo · 13/10/2009 08:29

the main reason we're not all in the bad is that DH woudl wake every time DD muttered and also,as i am parnoid, she sleeps just left of the middle and i hug the other edge unless I'm feeding her!!
there is no point in DH being woken 4 times a night when he cant do anything to soothe her!

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olivo · 13/10/2009 08:33

sorry X posts here - maybe i have not expressed myself very well - he has not asked to me to move out of the bed, i am doing it to try and help him,so please do not judge him.

I do not mind sleeping on the floor one bit, i could sleep anywhere right now, i am so tired.
we have tried 2 air beds that both deflated and a mattress.
this would be for one or maybe 2 nights so he can get some sleep before he makes himself ill.

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GetOrfMoiLand · 13/10/2009 08:33

Why can't you all fit in the same bed? Or, take one side of the cot off and push it against bed.

I think the DH is entitled to a comfortable night, think it is a bit harsh to tell him to sod off .

If you seriously can't all fit into a big bed, you will need to think long and hard about getting another bed which will be comfortable for either you and you baby, or DH. Don't think mattresses on the floor is a good idea for either of you tbh.

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olivo · 13/10/2009 08:34

there is no point in buying a bed, we cant fit one into the room, DD2s room is the box room as DD1 is now in what was the spare room.

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GetOrfMoiLand · 13/10/2009 08:35

Can you fit a double bed in a spare room/childrens room as a temporary measure?

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olivo · 13/10/2009 08:35

cotbed wont fit in our room

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littleducks · 13/10/2009 08:36

i think its safe to put cot bed matyteress on floor next to you on mattress

when you are all sleep deprived, just one nights better sleep can make it easier to get the energy to sort out the problems long term

we have a fold out chair bed from ikea that wasnt too ££££ that i find comfy (and dd is always sneaking in it) that we bought for dh after ds was born, if you decide you need a long term solution

GetOrfMoiLand · 13/10/2009 08:38

Cross posts.

What bout pushing the cot up to the bed (with one side taken off obv) and have the baby sleep on the outside. When I slept with dd this is what I did, I preferred dd to be on the outside as I was terrified that she would get squashed in the middle of me and XDP. DD also used to trash about so she could (when asleep) be put into the cot bit, when she woke up to be fed I could just reach across and pull her across to cuddle without getting out of the bed, It was the best of both worlds.

littleducks · 13/10/2009 08:38

DONT PUT BABY ON AIR BED though, or feed baby on it incase you do nod off, air beds sink down with weight and are very dangerous

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olivo · 13/10/2009 08:39

we really dont have an option of fitting another bed in, the rooms are not big, that's why he is squashed on a little mattress.

the plan eventually is for me to move onto the mattress in dd's room when we try her in her cot,but i was hoping to get her down to maybe only 2 feeds a night before that!

I guess i'll probably have to try that sooner rather than later. DH is hell to live with when he is tired and it isnt doing our family relationship any good at all.

Thank you all for your suggestions, I know yuo are trtying to help

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GetOrfMoiLand · 13/10/2009 08:40

Cross posts again!

I think then that to get a good night it won't do any harm to sleep on the floor with your baby on a cot mattress next to you.

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DuelingFANGo · 13/10/2009 08:48

You poor things.

Could you use this opportunity to strike some kind of bargain with your DH. You sort out the sleeping arrangments and he goes to the doctor about his insomnia?

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olivo · 13/10/2009 08:48

the sofa is a bit short for my long DH to be fair!

i wondered about asking my PIl to borrow their cot - woudl it be ok to use the matress that's been used by a few other children? we cant really afford a new one for just a temporary solution.

i think i'll try her on the cb mattress next to me tonight and hopefully, have a clearer head in the morning to look at a longer term solution.
and then i've got to get her out of her swaddling habit.... but htere's a whole other thread

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