Am I mad to move DD's bed into our bedroom?

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DD (3.1) is waking every night and coming up to our bed. Should I just move her bed into our room and we can all get some sleep (we have a large attic bedroom so loads of room for her bed as well as ours) or will I never get her back into her own room again if i do this?

She went into her own room at 12months but has never really liked it or settled well there. I've been with her and chosen new bedding and she has helped me set her room out but she just wants to be with me and DH. When she wakes at night (usually around 10pm) she will not go back off in her own bed.

She is such a wriggler that I don't get any sleep when she gets in with us and I'm knackered all the time (as is DH but he is SAHD and after she has gone to school he can get a couple of hours in)

I don't know what to do. I've never used CC with her and don't want to start.

Please help

Off to work now so sorry to post and run but I will be checking in later.

Thanks

I would say don't do it,

Is the problem that she wriggles or is it that you feel she should be in her own room?

If it's just the wriggling then could you set up camp bed or something next to your bed so that she's not actually in with you, whilst leaving her bed in her own room? Just a mattress on the floor maybe? But I agree that you're then setting up a pattern of her being next to you that will be hard to break.

If you really want her to stay in her own room, then I'm afraid I have no advice! My DD is still in with us and she's 4. She's always been a rubbish sleeper and we've chosen the path of least resistance.

What happens if you take her straight back to her own bed?

i have done this recently with my 6 year old.
it used to ba a looooong wind down to bed, the story, the night light, the drawn out 'im scared' conversation.
she hops straight into bed now, and we all sleep better.
for now, it doesnt matter, and if/when it does we will adjust it.

My DS is 4.6 and has been sleeping with us for past year, Started off because he couldn't settle so DH thought it would be easier to bring him into our room! I did try explaining that 3 times makes a habit bt in the middle of the night self control went out the window!

He kept wriggling and I was getting kicked and woken up every few hours it was awful and I felt like I had a newborn all over again! I tried over the summer to soend a few nights trying to take him back to his room but didn't work and were both frustrated.

My solution for now is to have his winnie the pooh blow up bed next to us, he falls asleep in his bedroom and then comes in at around 3am and goes straight into the bed. I wouldn't bring her actual bed into your room but use a temp. you'll feel so much better.

I know it feels like it will never stop and that;s what I'm afraid of too, I've heard stories of it continuing into the teens!! I hope this wont be the case and I think now he;s a big school he might just decide to stay in his bed. He keepd saying he;s scared of burglars and foxes so I don't want to push it now.

There are days when I think it will never end but for now I'm thankful that I have a healthy son and this is the only problem we have to deal with and this to will pass!!

Hope this helps, I know how difficult it is!

Sorry about all my typos, trying to watch eastenders and type!!

I would do it - absolutely. I have the best sleeps of my life in with DD now. Just go for it and don't worry about what anyone else says it is important that you all get some sleep bottom line.

We were lucky enough to have a spare bed in DS's room so did the reverse. i.e if he came into our room/wouldn't settle he was steered straight back to his own bed, often I would just lie on the spare bed in his room until he settled (or I fell asleep. I felt it was important that he learnt to sleep in his room rather than ours.

Sorry I have been away and not responded. I've had swine flu and this is my first day out of bed. Thanks for all your advice I think we will carry on with the back to your own bed and see how we go

Thanks