insecurity leading to need of full body contact by ds when sleeping - help

[frustratedmom]

My 4yo has had issues. we have had more specialist then time to see them, we have had sleep problems ALL his life from just not sleeping to severe night terrors, we have had emotional damage caused by a bad nursery and behaviour problems (NOT surprisingly).

In the day it comes out as temper and lashing out. This it dealable with. What is a problem is the inability to sleep, when feeling insecure, without full body contact - either co-sleeping body-to-body or physically lying on top of me.

Love the boy to bits but need to know if there is anything to settle him and help him express or start to acknowledge what is going on and dissassociate the link with sleeping? maybe optomistic but need to help him feel happier and more settled as it is creating a day-night behaviour cycle due to tiredness.

Hi - it sounds like there are some complex issues going on with your son which you need some help with. Has your health visitor been involved? Without knowing the background about whether co-sleeping was what you're son's been used to all his life, it's really hard to give any advice. I hope you can get some help - I would definitely speak to health visitor again and get more support.

HV more then useless in this case. we have tried all the normal approaches with regards to both sleep and behaviour. medical profession want school to deal with. School doesn't start til sept. and not sure that they could help with sleep issues.

Complex is putting it mildly. I have a few other posting on other issues and would love to link but not figured out how to do that bit yet.

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someone has helpfully linked it to this nxt one.

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Originally thought isolated aspects but what has become clear thanks to forum is that they are linked. Now how to solve?

learnt how to link!

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As you said complex but I at least feel there are other parents going through similar stuff - even if is general different bits in different children.

Does the bigger picture help or confuse?