question: do you go out with toddler during his afternoon nap? Y or N?

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Ceebee74 · 08/02/2009 21:08

Yes - if I needed to go somewhere I would either let him fall asleep in the car and have a shorter nap or try and get him to have an earlier nap.

IdrisTheDragon · 08/02/2009 21:09

I wouldn't have done every day, but would do sometimes.

morocco · 08/02/2009 21:10

a is the other way round
toddler has nap as and when, sometimes when we are out, sometimes when we are in. no way I'm planning my day round them. but then, dd is no 3 and life is too busy and too short for that kind of thing . I'm sure I used to be far nicer with ds1 and even ds2

morocco · 08/02/2009 21:10

a is the other way round
toddler has nap as and when, sometimes when we are out, sometimes when we are in. no way I'm planning my day round them. but then, dd is no 3 and life is too busy and too short for that kind of thing . I'm sure I used to be far nicer with ds1 and even ds2

paolosgirl · 08/02/2009 21:11

Very occasionally, but try not to. With 3 kids, his nap time on the days I'm not working is the only time I can get things done, plus I like to keep him to his routine.

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bumbly · 08/02/2009 21:13

other mums think i ma mad and bonkers to plan my day aund his nap

tried this weekend to go out and we have had a tantrumy kid eveyr eve as not slept well in day

how do mums of two manage i dont know

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luckylady74 · 08/02/2009 21:18

Stayed in with all 3 - I like routine and I like sitting down whilst 3 under 3 snooze upstairs - those were the days! All other naps were in car or pushchair though. I never had such an exciting life that I neede to be out in the afternoon as well as the morning. They'd sleep at anyone elses house if we were away at the weekend. I think it was in the car or pushchair sometimes on holiday, but they always slept for longest in bed.
Can't do simple yes or nos!

techpep · 08/02/2009 21:18

The trick i think is not to plan your day around sleeps, that way the child will get used to being lifted in and out of cars, buggys and not wake. Did this with both dc and worked really well, i would have gone crazy being trapped in the house. It never affected their bedtime, has always been 7pm (dd is 8 and ds is 4)

luckylady74 · 08/02/2009 21:20

You are not crazy - it's what ever works for you and your child and this weekend didn't work for either of you.

preggersplayspop · 08/02/2009 21:25

Only if I was going for a drive somewhere as he will sleep in the car but no chance in the buggy (he hates the buggy at the best of times, but will be meltdown if tired as well).

I prefer to be at home so he can sleep properly in his bed. I think some children are just wired to be able to sleep when and where they can and others can't. My DS's sleep is fragile so I prefer to work around his nap time so he gets a good sleep and is happy in the afternoon.

lou031205 · 08/02/2009 21:30

With DD1 (now 3.2) I didn't stay in for nap time at all, unless I happened to be in. She would sleep wherever her head hit. She was just that kind of child. No bother.

DD2 very quickly displayed herself as the kind of child that likes to be in her bed for sleeping. She will sleep on me if it is very quiet at home, or in the buggy or car, but not if there is any activity around. Far too interesting.

So, generally, I take DD1 to preschool, come back with DD2. Sometimes she will want to go to bed for a sleep at 10.30, other times she will hold out until DD2 returns from preschool.

My ideal is to hold her out, then they both go up to sleep for a couple of hours at about 1pm. However, if we need to go out, they both cope ok, and just go to bed a little earlier in the evening.

beeny · 08/02/2009 21:36

i love it when she naps cos i need one as well,so stay in she is 2 and i am 8 months pregnant.

Indith · 08/02/2009 21:41

Ds has to go down for a nap the instant he finishes lunch or it won't happen. He is fine ot miss it so long as we are out for the rest of the afternoon and he is kept busy. I avoid doing things like going out for lunch and going home just after as I then end up with a stroppy toddler at home all afternoon.

madrush · 08/02/2009 21:48

yes we're pretty flexible, depends on how much mum needs an accompanying nap though....

AlexanderPandasmum · 08/02/2009 22:00

DS (nearly 2) will now not go for a nap at home and fights sleep. Only chance I have is if I'm out and he's in the pushchair or car and then he'll fall asleep. If he's really tired (as he was today - we'd been for a long walk and he fell asleep in the car) then we have a chance of getting him into his cot without him waking and then he'll sleep for ages . If he's in the pushchair in his coat there's no chance - so I'll often unzip him a litle and remove hats etc and then leave him in the hall in the pushchair to nap (where it's cooler so he won't overheat).

So for me it's the opposite problem.

littlepinksavage · 08/02/2009 23:14

my little one goes to bed at 7 but if he has a sleep during the day then he wont go to sleep till nine maybe ten! so i avoid the day Nap inless i am out then he falls asleep in the buggy and not much i can do about that, he stopped having a day nap around 18 months old or it was a nightmare to get him to go to sleep on time and i like to keep him in a routine.
i think it all depends on what works best for the both of you, x

peachface · 08/02/2009 23:19

I tend to work my day round ds's nap - he needs the rest and if he doesn't get it, he's cranky. On the odd occasion if I need to do something I try and work it so that if he doesn't sleep in the car on the way TO wherever we're going, he has chance to nap on the way BACK. As long as it doesn't happen often, he's ok with the odd deviation from the routine!

katiepotatie · 08/02/2009 23:20

What's an afternoon nap??

peachface · 08/02/2009 23:23

i know where you're coming from becuse my first ds stopped having daytime naps at 14mths but my 18mth old ds is still enjoying them so I am basking in the contrast to the way my daytime life looked like with my 1st ds!!!

spottyshoes · 08/02/2009 23:25

Exactly the same as Beeny. Luckily DS (22mths) sleeps 2-2.5 hours still in the afternoon. Why would I want to waste that by going out Am keeping my fingers crossed he still does when the baby comes in a couple of weeks!