I still bf ds (20mths) once a day, at bedtime. He enjoys this feed very much and while for a few months has been happy for this to be at bedtime, and has fallen asleep while feeding, he is now often asking throughout the day (I refuse/distract as i don´t want to go back to feeding more) again. At bedtime he is thrilled when we go off to his bedroom for the last feed but has stopped falling asleep and once he has finished and I try to take him off he gets upset and cries for it over and over. I can´t settle him at all without putting him back on and have to hand over to dh. He holds his arms out immediately for dh and is then settled quite happily within minutes.
This can´t carry on, dh studies in the pm and I do bedtimes, dh has had school hols over xmas so not a problem but is now going back and I need to be able to get ds down on my own.
What should I do? I thought of giving him a feed about 30mins before bed to seperate it from the going to sleep part of the routine but think he´ll still expect it when I then try to put him down and get wound up/upset when I refuse it. Or do I just have to accept that and battle through it? anyone been here?
(xposted in feeding topic but due to no replies thought I'd see if anyone on this topic can advise...)