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When to move them out of your room and into their cot?

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jinx · 10/03/2005 11:18

Has anyone any advice on this one? I would like to move my baby who is due in about 6 weeks to his own room and cot asap, when is the best time to do this?

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beansprout · 10/03/2005 11:35

Advice on SIDS is 6 months. We are at 4 and a half months and are still ok. It's certainly easier to have baby near you while you are still in the business of night feeds. I would assume it also depends on how well baby settles/sleeps without you there? Some people have baby in another room pretty much from the start and there was a thread yesterday on co-sleeping 2 and 4 year olds!
So, like so many other questions on MN, I guess the answer is... what is best for you and baby!!! Best of luck!

Gobbledigook · 10/03/2005 11:39

ASAP for a good nights sleep!

I just can't relax with all that gurgling going on!

Yes, it's whatever you feel comfortable with I think. We kept ds1 in our room for 6 months - mainly dh's decision because of the SIDS advice. YOu get a bit lax on no.2 so ds2 was out in his own room by about 10 weeks I think and ds3 went in his own room at 4 months but it only took so long because we waited till we moved house as there was no room for him to go in at the old one!

All my babies have slept through the night by about 8-10 weeks though so that makes a difference. Might want to keep them near you if you are going to be up a lot.

Good luck!

fredly · 11/03/2005 16:19

I moved my dd into her cot when she was 3 days old and it's always been absolutely fine. She's just next door and we leave the doors ajar so I can still hear her if she needs me but she doesn't awake us at each movement !

starlover · 11/03/2005 17:02

I don't get the SIDS thing... why is it any better to have baby in with you?

This sounds awful, but... if your baby dies in the night you aren't going to hear it are you??? SO, what's the difference if it's in your room or not?

Have I got completely the wrong end of the stick?

Sponge · 11/03/2005 17:08

I think the principle is that they don't always just die, but might get under covers, too hot etc and so there could be some snuffling, struggling whatever which you would hear if you were in the same room.
The risk is very low by 6 months so that's when it's deemed safer to move them into another room.
And of course night feeding is easier if they're nearby, for as long as that lasts.
Ds has been in his cot from the word go but has only recently moved to his own room (now 7 months) and boy are we all sleeping better.

sweetkitty · 11/03/2005 17:12

Own room own bed would be a start for us!

starlover · 11/03/2005 17:16

ahh well yes, that bit makes sense. although, aren't they more likely to end up under the covers when they're older and moving about more?

or has the risk generally gone by then regardless of things like that???

I don't want to move ds into his own room because I will miss him, and I think he'll be lonely in there all by himself. Which is stupid, because he'll be asleep, and he won't really care!

Sponge · 11/03/2005 17:20

Once they can move about by themselves, roll etc then the risk virtually disapppears as they can get away from anything that's potentially smothering them - face out of blankets etc.
If you like having him with you then keep him there. As long as you're all sleeping OK there's no reason to send him out on his own.
We found that not only was ds disturbing us but we were probably disturbing him (dh snoring and all) as he's sleeping better now too.

KathH · 11/03/2005 17:31

seem to remember that some very young babies can forget to breathe for just a moment or 2 and if you're in the same room your breathing is supposed to make them remember - or something along those lines.

Clayhead · 11/03/2005 17:33

KathH, I have read that too.

Tommy · 11/03/2005 17:37

DS1 moved into his own room at 8 weeks - on the advice of the HV. He was sleeping through and we obviously had the monitor on all the time.
DS2 moved into his room at 11m - was still b/feeding him once a night until then and also, we just never got round to moving him! (2nd child syndrome!)We got to the point with DS2 where we were waking him up when we came to bed so it was better he was on his own really. I think you just have to play it by ear - children are all different

Frizbe · 11/03/2005 17:40

don't know about anyone else, but I never realised I would wake up when something was wrong with my baby,as am famed for sleeping... but then once dd was born, it was all I could do to go to sleep and stay asleep, just in case something might happen to her! Luckily this has gotten better as she's gotten older! (mind you she was also a very loud snuffly baby to sleep next too!) and we moved her at 6mths, so I can get my beauty sleep ok now!
It might be worth having a read of a thread that was kicking about on here the other week, about NZ cotdeaths and matress wrapping, as made interesting reading.

stitch · 11/03/2005 17:47

about five months or so imo

Polina · 11/03/2005 18:00

Despite SIDS advice we popped ds in his own room from the day we came back from hospital, and in the cot 2 days later after his definite views on the moses basket became hard to ignore. His room is next to ours and I had the monitor practically in my ear - and according to my partner the only place in the house you couldn't hear me breathing was at the bottom of the garden (blame hayfever) so we felt it was a risk worth taking. It certainly helped us, and as he was sleeping through pretty young it seemed to help him too. If we had another one we would try to do the same again, but only if they seemed stable enough to be on their own.

By the way, I am probably an unnatural mother but I really wished they had taken him to a nursery in hospital - the first night I had him he did NOTHING but scream, and I had no idea what to do with him!

Anteater · 11/03/2005 18:06

Cant even get any peace here now, Im going as fast as I can! ..yes I know I said the new room would be ready last christmas...Skirting boards on tommorow..
dd2 due in her own Ant hill asap

Nemo1977 · 11/03/2005 18:08

i moved DS into his own room at 9wks old but he is right next door and i also used a angelcare baby monitor for my own sanity. But dont regret it one bit

sasa15 · 11/03/2005 18:09

I moved ds when he was six weeks old
in the basket inside the cot!

leave door open next door....and my door...

very good sleep after that....

good for him...as he wasn't disturbed...and for us...too

highlander · 14/03/2005 03:56

3 weeks.
Sadly, DS inherited all of his dad's noisy sleep habits

ghosty · 14/03/2005 07:19

Both mine at 6 weeks. With DS it was because it was pointless putting him back in his moses basket when he had had a week in hospital in a huge cot .... but I did sleep in the same room with him for a couple of days until his noises kept me awake all night and I crept back in with DH at 3am and stayed there.
DD was 6 weeks too .... by that time I was shattered as I couldn't sleep with all her noises and I found myself grabbing her to feed her when she just made a tiny sound ... I had the monitor on for the first night and then switched that off too as I spent all night listening to it ... We found we all slept better once she was in her room (next door) and the monitor was off .... she made sure I woke up if she was hungry.
And, yes, we live in NZ and she has a wrapped mattress so I wasn't worried about that side of things ...

dabihp · 14/03/2005 08:22

dd is 2yrs and 3 mnths and only moving her to her own room cos baby no. 2 on the way! Personally, I I felt better where I could see her esp. if she has a cold or cough or any occassion where she has vomitted in cot, dread to think if she had been in other room and hadnt got to her in time!

hotmama · 14/03/2005 09:18

DD moved into her own room at 14 weeks. She is a good sleeper but would wake at 4 a.m and would just need her head rubbing and dummy putting in and then would go back to sleep - but I would have woken up then!

When moved to her own room, we all slept through as she has learned to go back to sleep by herself. It was definitely wierd/not nice with her not being in the crib next to me but you get used to it - though I use a baby monitor to keep tabs on her etc.

DD is in sleeping bags so I don't worry with head under covers etc.

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