hi, my dd is 13 weeks, very smiley seemingly reaaly happy little thing. feeds well, good weight gain etc. she has never had a sleepy newborn phase, been alert and curious from day one. also have ds 2.2 who was very similar.
my query is regarding settling to sleep. with ds i think i held him for all day sleeps until 6months, this would settle him, he fought every sleep but with little or no crying. with dd, seems that holding seems counter productive-have consistantly ie over several days before assessing, cuddling, rocking, wearing sling, rocking in pram or in amby nest. no difference to just putting down and leaving her! in fact, any intervention just prolongs or postpones the hysterical screaming before sudden drop to sleep.
usual cry for 4 mins, though can be longer for first nap of day. i set timer for 5 mins and go to reassure i/m still there if not gone by then, other than first nap will nearly always be gone at dead on 4 mins. doesn't happen at bedtime or in the night.
is this just what she needs to do? feel like i'm leaving my baby to cry herself to sleep! but she wants to.....