Can anybody help, my dd 3.5 has had frequent night wakings since she was about 2, we also have a ds who is 1yo who does wake her at night but its not entirely down to him. She often crys at night and when we go to her she says her legs hurt/shes scared/ its too dark.She settles fairly easily if we go to her but some times she just shuffles down to our room and stares at us. She is wide awake and last week i even caught her coming downstairs in the middle of the night (caught her because she turned on all the lights on the way down.
On top of this she has been waking up at about 5 (mainly because the baby wakes at that time for a bottle but even if he doesn't she still gets up) i don't allow her to come out of her room but can hear her playing, likewise when i put her to bed at about 7 she often gets out and plays quietly in her room until about 8 i usually give up telling her to get back into bed. The problem seems to be the more exhausted she gets the more frequently she wakes. The only thing i have found that helps is sometimes when shes really shattered i put her to bed at 5 (i know i know) but that way she gets a bit of an early night. Please help i'm shattered i'm up between 2 and 5 times a night. I thought it would get easier. I should point out that on the odd occassion i let her in our bed i have to wake her at 8.30 but its not an option.