Night weaning a 10 month old who still wakes to feed

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My 10 month old is still up multiple times in the night to feed - he’s always been a bad sleeper. He catnaps in the day most days even though I try to stick to a loose schedule and has only done a really long stretch a few times in his life. I’m so tired!

I go back to work soon and really want him sleeping better at night… i’ve co slept from a few weeks old and to be honest, it’s saved me because I couldn’t have been up that many times with him without it!

He feeds to sleep most of the time, so I’m convinced through the night it’s a comfort thing. He takes a bottle although unreliably. He’s a great eater so I really don’t think it’s hunger but obviously could be wrong as he is a big boy.

Is it better for me to do the nights with him when night weaning or I’ve heard it’s better for my husband to do the night because then he can’t smell me?

Looking for any tips or success stories with similar babies because I have no idea what I’m doing and I’m scared that after night weaning he will still be up and expect to be rocked or held back to sleep because I’d rather just keep cosleeping 😳

If the only way he knows how to fall asleep is feeding, then he is going to continue needing that when he stirs in the night.
You need to give him some ways to sleep without feeding.

First work on self-settling at bedtime and nap times and then you can wean in the night.

Sorry slow reply. He can sometimes drop off back to sleep on his own, or if he’s sleepy I’ll put him in his cot and pat his bum which sometimes works but just now I tried to put him down for a nap and he woke up after 2 mins. I just don’t know where to start

I wouldn’t night wean under 12 months. There’s zero guarantee night weaning will stop the wakes, that is usually only seen at 18 months plus. I’d move his bedtime feed to after dinner and then settle him another way, might help.

If you’re only night weaning in the hope it improves his sleep (and yours!) I wouldn’t. Several friends have tried and are instead up rocking and making bottled half the night instead.

Since you’re going back to work, your partner will need to help to ensure you get a solid chunk of sleep each. Even if that’s taking him to a separate room to read quietly or play.

There's no guarantees, but mine did all pretty much sleep through between 9-12 months once night weaned.
But they were self settling at naps and bedtime by then.