We have a baby who has always slept well and woken just once a night at 4am for a feed. She goes to sleep on her own in the evening and for her daytime naps and settles herself easily without crying so is definitely ready to sleep through. She just won't break the habit of the 4am feed and we are shattered as by the time she has fed and gone back to her cot it's a short time before our three year old is up at 6. We have tried leaving her to cry but it just makes her gulp more and more hysterically and after two hours we gave in (tried twice). This week we have tried my partner going in and stroking her when she wakes and just giving her water. She doesn't seem to mind not having the breast at night but it takes even longer to settle her and she has started going hysterical unless she falls asleep in his arms. So we are considering going back to giving her a feed at night just because it's quicker to get her back off again. Any other tips or ideas?