Tempur mattress and bad sex

[Itsnotraining]

I’m really struggling to find a mattress that suits. We both really liked and ordered the Tempur memory foam.

However DH read online that sex on a Tempur mattress is terrible. (?????) Apparently you sink in too much…

So we cancelled that and went for a Flaxby medium. But it’s just too hard and I feel achey when I wake up.

i really want to swap it for a Tempur. But DH is adamant our sex lives will be impacted.

Has anyone got a Tempur?

I've read all latex type mattresses are not so good for sex .
If up to now the mattress you've had has been ok , then why not get like for like and away you go !

What about adding a memory foam topper over your new mattress?
I like a bit of give and bounce in my mattress, I don't like the solidity of a full memory foam when I've stayed in eg airbnbs. But I've never had sex on one!

A memory foam topper is a good shout.

@maybe unfortunately our last mattress was a mega cheapie that we bought online years ago.

Concerned that the Tempur will be rubbish for sex/ manoeuvring! But I think a comfy night sleep takes priority for me!

I did have a tempur and it did make sex tricky! You don't get any rebound... so you just sink in... in and in... and in..... if you see what I mean ! I also found it too hot (not during sex), hated it....

What? Why would a Tempur be bad for sex? I've had one for 15 years, it's sooo comfortable and you don't sink in at all.

There IS a period of adjustment while you get used to it though and they give you a 6 week guarantee so you get a refund , most of these type of beds do.

We have a Tempur and yes, you do sink in and sex is difficult! It's so comfy though!

Have sex on the sofa instead…..? I wouldn’t be buying a mattress based on whether it was good for sex or not. I spend far more time sleeping than having sex!

That should say it IS difficult, not sure why the 'not' was put there!

OP give your mattress a week or so to get used to it, the achiness is your back stretching out (according to the leaflet that came with Tempur) and it improves.

Ah thank you all. I’ll definitely give it another week.
Its such an expensive investment, I’m worried we have bought something too hard.

But equally I don’t want to trade it in for a Tempur (we have 30 night guarantee with dreams) if it’s going to make sex tricky 😂

I have a tempur mattress medium firm. It is luxurious and can’t see that it affecting what you want to do.

I love our tempur mattress... yeah you dont get any 'bounce back' from the bed when having sex as its not springy but I wouldnt let that ever stop me getting another Tempur, you get used to it and adjust. Dont even think about it now - were just used to it and sex in a different bed isnt any better

We have a Tempur memory foam, and find it actually better for sex as the movement is absorbed a bit, so much less noisy which I like as feel self conscious if there's too much rattling about - our walls are very thin! 😳