We are trying to to maintain a positive relationship with our son after a difficult summer when we found out he was experimenting with drugs and went ballistic with him. Since then we have turned a corner he cooks a family meal once a week , gets to work and school on time , I have re decorated and carpeted his room and bought him expensive tech presents for xmas .
However
I have just opened an amazon parcel by Accident as it was addressed to him and I hadn't noticed, he has bought himself a grinder for weed . He has assigned present buying to his younger brother and has smoked weed in our shed with freinds last night after I specifically banned this.
What would you do ?
This selfishness is age related I think , should I call it out but risk an atmosphere at Xmas .
Throw the grinder in the bin? Or had it to him with chat about his 'chioces'
Or something else ?