Advice please kids not sleeping driving me nuts

[LeoAug20]

4 year old sleeping in a separate bed in our room. 1 year old in my bed. Husband sometimes with us and sometimes in spare room. I know I messed up by not putting them in own rooms but can’t turn time back. Advice for now please. 4 year old sleeps and rarely wakes up. 1 year old numerous times a night, last night woke up 6 times. Gave him a sip of water and milk and back to sleep.

Have a nursery with cot no one has slept in a part from day time naps for 1 year old. Have a spare room with guest bed. How shall I get my sanity back.

How do you feel about controlled crying for the 1yo?

I’m willing to try anything. I’m worried he’ll just keep crying tho and won’t stop and sleep

It's worth a try - it works like magic for some babies. Buy a book (there are several) and follow the steps - going in and soothing him for gradually lengthening periods of time.

If this is successful you can turn your attention to the 4yo. No point doing him first or he'd be disturbed by the baby. The 4yo should be easier - just lots of repeating 'back to bed now' again and again until he gets the hang of it.

Good luck!

@icekitten thank you! I’ll do it tonight. I’m thinking I’ll move 4 year old to downstairs nursery and put baby in the other bed (embarrasses to day it’s actually a travel cot, it does have a special thick mattress tho)