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11 month old sleep gone to pot... advice please!

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RC000 · 04/01/2017 08:19

Hi all,

DD started off not a great sleeper, then magically, around 7 months, started to sleep through (most of the time).

I the last few weeks it has all gone wrong, obviously coinciding with me going back to work next week. She now screams, manages to sit up and stand up in her cot despite her bag and sleepy head grand thing. I'm scared to leave her crying at length (we have done the doubling method of crying before which worked well) incase she falls over in her cot. Should I leave her? Sometimes she's in a little ball at the bottom of her cot. When I go in I normally get a big smile but the longer it goes on the more tired she gets and cries. She used to self settle so well just playing with and sucking her muslins.

She gets up at half 6, first nap around 9am for an hour or so, second nap around 1pm for around 1.5 hours.

Any advice or experience gratefully received!

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IfYouDontImagineNothingHappens · 04/01/2017 12:52

Do whatever it takes to get some sleep and not torture your kid, it's a stage. There will probably be another one until 18 months. Do whatever it is that will keep you sane.

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RC000 · 04/01/2017 17:50

Thank you

I keep crying which isn't ideal!

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FATEdestiny · 04/01/2017 18:58

I would sit next to the cot, hand on her chest so she can feel your oresence even with her eyes closed. Maybe some patting and shushing. Stay until asleep.

Over time slowly reduce how much reassurance she needs to go to sleep.

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RC000 · 04/01/2017 19:12

Thank you I will try x

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JohnLapsleyParlabane · 04/01/2017 19:15

She may want to feel more independent. A sleeping bag and a sleepy head may be too much for her now. My 14month old DD has been out of sleeping backs for several months now and sleeps a lot better.

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RC000 · 04/01/2017 19:34

That's very interesting - it does feel a bit like that. How do you keep her warm enough?

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JohnLapsleyParlabane · 04/01/2017 22:27

In cold weather we put a JojoMamanBebe padded sleepsuit on her, and in warmer weather a thick onesie with a vest and sometimes socks. She's never been a fan of limitations such as sleeping bags.

Heloise1982 · 06/01/2017 06:40

Just saw this and wanted to say - my twins are nearly 11 months and suddenly started being quite unsettled at night, so in desperation we took their Sleepyheads away to see if it would make a difference. I thought it would be a disaster but it actually made a big difference. They straight away started sleeping on their side or tummy, and went back to usually sleeping through (albeit they wake up at the ungodliest of ungodly hours - but that's another story!). I think they just wanted to be able to move around more. Might be worth a shot.

Mylittlebird16 · 06/01/2017 07:14

I seem to be in a very similar scenario, my dd has just turned one but it's been going on for a few weeks (sorry!)

She goes down for naps without issue so I know it's not the 'fighti sleep' regression, I think it's more something to do with attachment because she's also become incredibly clingy to me!

She goes down around 7pm and is out like a light, then can wake numerous times anytime between midnight and 5am. She will wake, stand up, sit up, and cry. we sit by the cot (in turns!) and shh her and try to get her back off, but it is so bloody difficult sometimes as she can be asleep and the second we move an inch to leave her room, bam she's awake again and it starts over.

I know if we put her in our bed she'd be straight asleep as she's clearly still tired, but don't want to create this habit as this stage as we plan to start to number 2 later on in the year.

We've tried switching to a duvet to mimic our bed, didn't work she hated it, so back with her sleepi bag. Went through a phase of thinking she could be cold I really don't think it's that, and it's not her teeth as we know about it when it's that!

Can't remember the last time we had a semi decent nights sleep.........

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RC000 · 06/01/2017 08:36

Thank you for advice- will try tonight with out sleepyhead!

A friend also suggested maybe dropping morning nap?

My little bird - it's so tough isn't it? I'm a zombie at work today...

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Mylittlebird16 · 06/01/2017 14:35

RC000 let me know how you get on! We tried a duvet, and also tried draping a blanket over her sleeping bag to no avail. She's such a light sleeper at the best of times....ahhhhh!

Even contemplating the cry it out approach, but I don't think I've got it in me just yet.....?!

Starfish25 · 07/01/2017 23:03

Sorry i have no advice just the same problem, my lb is nearly 11 months and he's been like that for what seems like eternity. I never thought of taking him out of his growbag, maybe that could be our problem. I've tried most things with my lb, he's even gone back to having a bottle during the night as i thought that might be the issue but nope!
I've been advised so many times over his naps, people saying he's sleeping too much/not enough give him another nap or make sure he's asleep before 7 as they get another "gust of wind"? Sorry if that's not the correct saying! and they won't be able to settle. Well i gave my boy a bath, read a book with a bottle in bed and asleep by 7 up to now he has woken up/cried approx 6 times. I'm a first time mum so i will try anything x

CityMole · 07/01/2017 23:18

It's a common age for developmental leap and separation anxiety. You just need to be there for your child and know that it will pass.

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RC000 · 08/01/2017 07:38

We have had minor progress (am aware saying that will mean it won't be the case!) by dropping the morning nap...

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RC000 · 14/01/2017 07:11

Oh my just had 4 horrendous nights on trot - up every 2/3 hours like with a newborn. It has been 2 weeks of this now.

Is 11 months a normal regression? Will it end soon? Struggling to cope and getting v teary.

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Mylittlebird16 · 14/01/2017 07:36

RC000 thats what we were like all over christmas! Spending ages by her cot trying to settle for her to wake up again an hour later.

It has got slightly better for us, we had three nights where she slept through but then the last two nights she's been awake at 3am and ended up in our bed, but Im putting it down to the weather battering her window and it being slightly chilly. We still couldn't resettle her last night so she ended up in our bed so bad backs all around this morning,

It's so hard isn't it, just wish they could tell us what the problem was!

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RC000 · 14/01/2017 08:18

ThAnna for quick reply! That's good you have had some improvement! I know - just really hoping it's some sort of phase that will end soon! Is this a normal time for a sleep regression? I'd always heard of the 4 month one but not an 11 month one!

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Mylittlebird16 · 14/01/2017 09:36

I've no idea - I used to follow wonderweeks but gave up on that as I was getting too fixated on it. With our daughter it was/is definitely an attachment phase as she is funny even going to her dad after work, grandma who she usually dotes on etc. So I think she's waking, thinking woah where's mummy I wanna go sleep with her and not be in my room on my own! We also found it was much quicker for my husband to settle her than when I tried, as she seemed to get even more worked up when she saw me! (Which was a fab excuse for me to stay in bed when she woke haha)

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RC000 · 14/01/2017 10:09

That's v interesting - she does seem more clingy than usual. Fingers crossed it passes for us soon!

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DappledThings · 14/01/2017 10:21

Having quite very similar time and have my own thread so following this with interest.

Prepared to try to drop morning nap but after such a shit night it seems counter-intuitive. So confusing.

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RC000 · 14/01/2017 10:31

So confusing! I have just done an hour morning nap with mine - she still fought if after so little sleep though! So glad it's not just us gong through this x

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DappledThings · 14/01/2017 10:39

Just done an hour too! Hope it gets better for everyone

Mylittlebird16 · 14/01/2017 13:15

My dd just isn't ready to drop yet - she's only ever done an hour in morning and an hour in afternoon. The other morning she slept until 7.25 which is a record so I thought right perfect opportunity to try this one nap business but my half 10 she was shattered so I just let her stick to 2 naps - I'm sure they'll tell us when they're ready for one?

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RC000 · 14/01/2017 13:26

Yes probably - I have no idea!

Just done some googling and some people swear by hipp organic goodnight milk? Has anyone tried that?

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Mylittlebird16 · 16/01/2017 07:30

I've not but we're on whole milk now so not going back to formula.

Last ngyear he was horrendous, I've woken up moody, emotional, tired and needing a bloody shower. She was awake form2.5 hours. Perfectly fine lay in her cot to begin with, with us in the room. I sat there shhhh ing and stroking her head, she was trying to doze but wouldn't go off and every time I tried to leave, th e first time Being after at least 90 minutes she'd just stand up in her cot. After a while I left as I was just achieving nothing, then she was throwing her toys out of her cot, standing Up, throwing herself back down, emptying her cot tidy which she's never touched before. Then my husband tried for ten minutes before giving up and bringing her in our bed.i want to be mad at him but I was getting to the stage where I'd have done the same. Then this morning she's asleep in our bed, so I can't even shower after Dh goes to wrk for fear of her rolling out of bed. He gets up at 6.15 which is early enough when we've had zero bloody sleep.

What a great start to the week - I'm so fed up :(

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