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age what age did your baby self settle?

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mrsmoomoopoopoo · 09/04/2016 21:40

How old were they when they started self settling to sleep and did you teach them or is it something they just do eventually?

Dd is 5 months and has to be completely asleep before I transfer her to her crib. It's getting more difficult the bigger she gets.

I'm dreading when she goes in her own room at 6 months as it will be harder transferring her into her cot.

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Iguessyourestuckwithme · 09/04/2016 21:41

4 months - would shout and then self settle to sleep

TeaBelle · 09/04/2016 21:42

17 months. No teaching, just waited for her to 'get it '.

LisaRinnasLips · 09/04/2016 21:47

10 months after sleep training

MadamoiselleMango · 09/04/2016 21:47

At nighttime at about 4.5 months, it took me by complete surprise though as previously we'd been rocking her to sleep for seemingly hours. I also realised we needed to let her have a little whinge in the cot for a bit before nodding off, previously I was rushing in to comfort her for every squeak! (Pfb).

She's now started self settling for naps too.

Does she have a dummy? My dd needs her dummy and her fluffy rabbit before she can nod off.

We never taught her though.

Coconut0il · 09/04/2016 21:48

DS1 was fairly old I think... we went from feeding to sleep to singing and cuddling then to a story and a cuddle. He might have been about 3 before I could put him into bed and he'd go to sleep on his own. I didn't mind and he always slept well. He's 12 now and has never had any sleep issues. DS2 is 7 months and can see me doing the same with him.

Diddlydokey · 09/04/2016 21:49

With a dummy, 3 months. Without, 5 months.

Not sleep trained but encouraged iyswim.

scandichick · 09/04/2016 21:51

18 months. We didn't cotton on at first, and still spent ages waiting in the dark for her to settle MNing

DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 09/04/2016 21:51

16mo and still waiting... Hoping she'll get it soon Sad
I have tried different things but don't want to leave her to cry - my choice and I totally respect others' choices, but I have had to accept she's not 'getting' it as soon as I'd have liked!
The best I've ever had is having to sing the Mockingbird song at her for 5 mins before she fell asleep lying down in the cot. This was a huge achievement for us!

BisherBasherBosher · 09/04/2016 21:52

8.5 months, when she came out of leap 6 (see Wonder Weeks App). Apparently it is a developmental milestone like rolling or crawling. They can either do it or they can't. If you CC, they still wake up, but don't cry anymore as they've learnt you won't come.

A snugglebundl may help you. I used to lay DD on the snugglebundl on my bed and cuddle her while a projector played. Once she'd fallen asleep, I lifted her in the snugglebundl and transferred her to her cot. Baby is less likely to wake up if you transfer this way Smile

Ragwort · 09/04/2016 21:54

I just put DS into his moses basket & assumed he would fall asleep from the day we got back from hospital - he was a week old Blush - thank goodness I wasn't into Mumsnet in those days, Grin - it never occurred to me that I should feed/rock/cuddle him to sleep - I left him for a few minutes, he might have grizzled a little, but he learned to self settle immediately Confused.

superram · 09/04/2016 21:55

Almost 7 and still waiting....

Passmethecrisps · 09/04/2016 21:58

Quite similar to ragwort actually and that was with MN. As time passed she needed different things to get her relaxed enough to settle - being rocked, singing and so on but she has always been ok at settling without me. She is obsessed with her dummy though.

donajimena · 09/04/2016 21:59

First child 2yrs Shock second was born chilled and just slept any time any place anywhere..
Oh and he slept through from 3 weeks..
Did you see that the first one was two??? I didn't sleep for two years...

TheWeeBabySeamus1 · 09/04/2016 22:00

DS is 16 months old and still won't even go near his room at bedtime of he's awake, he lies next to me on sofa and when he's asleep I have to sneak him upstairs into his cot.

On the plus side he sleeps through the night so I don't really mind.

finova · 09/04/2016 22:00

15 months
2 1/2 ish

Icecappedpinetrees · 09/04/2016 22:04

2.... years....

Sorry.

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mrsmoomoopoopoo · 09/04/2016 22:07

Bisher just been looking at the snugglebundl and it looks fab. Only thing is they are only suitable up to 6 months and she will be 6 months end of April. And she's tall too so may not fit in it. Wish I had seen this months ago!!

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Diddlydokey · 09/04/2016 22:09

If you CC, they still wake up, but don't cry anymore as they've learnt you won't come

Bullshit.

Yika · 09/04/2016 22:15

About 3 months? I discovered it accidentally as I absolutely had to take a shower one day and had to leave her crying. Rushed in and out of the shower only to find her sound asleep from which I concluded that the crying was just a short prelude to sleeping and from then on I could leave her to get on with it - was really liberating!!

BisherBasherBosher · 09/04/2016 22:16

Oops, I used my snuglebundl over 6 months. She was quite long in it Blush

BisherBasherBosher · 09/04/2016 22:20

www.buzzfeed.com/patricksmith/its-evolution-baby#.kt1n6g9x

Point 6.

Hidinginplainsite · 09/04/2016 22:24

12 months and still not SS.

Breastfeeds to sleep and wakes as soon as she's put down Confused

NutellaLawson · 09/04/2016 22:24

15 and 13 months for my first two. Still waiting with my third (6 months).

They do get it but it is key to allow them to fuss a bit without rushing in to do it for them. I found with my second dc, lingering in the room kept him awake. It was better for him if I put him in the cot and scarpered, letting him grumble for 5 minutes and only going in if he escalates to crying.
Ds1 required sleep training (pupd) to get more than 2 hours sleep and by 15m he was easy to put to bed , no grumbles whatsoever.

There seems to be lots of variation that is more child than parenting. Even CIO has its failures and is no silver bullet (and horrible enough when it works. Imagine how awful when it doesn't).

With dc3 I plan to just grit my teeth and give her chances to fall asleep by herself and be on hand when she can't manage it. It's hard but I know she's not a baby forever.

Mind you don't listen to me. This week its been taking us 2+ hours to get her to sleep. She hates the cot. Wakes up screaming if you try to put her in it. She protests on her way down even if asleep. The phrase 'drowsy but awake' gives me the rage.

Passmethecrisps · 09/04/2016 22:25

I think the person who wrote that has confused cc with cio. Many methods of so-called controlled crying actually don't advocate any crying at all. Gradual retreat and so on.

I did neither method but dd was a good sleeper albeit with numerous sleep aids - swaddling, dummy, Ewan the dream sheep and special cuddly toys. We all just do what we need to do to get through the day (and the night)

BisherBasherBosher · 09/04/2016 22:27

Agree with letting them whinge for a bit, but go to them if they cry. DD sometimes has a little whinge before she nods off.

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