the baby hates me oh yes he does

[jenny373]

Someone plz tell me how to make my baby sleep
He has woken every 30 minutes for the last 3 days I'm going crazy
He is the clingyest baby ever he wants to be next to me every minute of every day
He's not happy playing on the floor oh no he has to be actually sitting on me he's not happy with a bath I have to get in he's not happy with being rocked in he's pram oh no he has to sleep on me
Aaah
I wouldn't mind but I have 2 other kids and they are not getting any attention they have had chips for dinner tonight beams on toast last night and plain pasta with grated cheese the night before that
heard my other son talking to he's teddy saying babies are bad they take mummys away earlie

Help me!!

How old is your baby? If he's very young then he could still be adjusting to being in the big open world, he's used to being curled up being rocked as you move. If he's older then I hare to say it but some babies are just high needs. My 13 month old clings on to me day and night but that won't change so I just get on with it.

Try using a sling for when you need to get things done, I still use ours and it's agod send.

He's 9 months
I don't mind him wanting to be held but seriously every half hour all night long?

I just feel sorry for my eldest 2 the poor sods
When will it get easier coz even finding 20 mins to do ds homework is almost impossible and the teacher already looks at me like I'm a terrible parent coz I'm constantly forgetting stuff

it doesn't sound like he hates you, it sounds like he bloody loves you.

what else has changed in 3 days? sounds odd if it's a new thing.

My daughter wakes every 2 hours now but went through a phase like yours when she was getting teeth through.

Any chance it's teething? Is he hungry? Nappy rash? Reflux?

Do you have anyone who could come and help you with homework or sit with the baby in another room?

Well it's got more intense in the last 3 days but he is generally clingy
I know he doesn't really hate me but I'm so stressed
My house is a complete shit hole
I havnt washed my hair in 3 days
The bathroom is literally drowning in washing
Things did start to get easier but suddenly they have got worse than ever
I love my baby to pieces but I just want an hour a day just one to spend with my eldest 2

I do have my mum but he just screams the whole time
I'm hoping things will improve soon but in the meantime
Ah!
I always get told I'm so motherly but atm I don't feel likeit iI feel like a terrible Mum coz Im getting really pissed off and stressed with it all everyone else can cope with their kids why can't i

I think 9 months is when separation anxiety really kicks in.

Combine that what illness/teething and you have a Velcro baby.

It will pass. Anyway you can get any help?

Jenny please don't beat yourself up, honestly I could write your post the amount of times I've sat with my daughter resenting breastfeeding yet again that day or not being able to my sons homework with my eldest without her climbing over me.

It's normal to be overwhelmed by it, I just try to remind myself that one day she will go her own way and I'll miss all these moments (hard to imagine sometimes though!).

1. Put the baby down for a few minutes when you need to - somewhere safe like his cot. No harm will come to him even if he cries.

1. Get a sling to wear baby while cooking, doing other jobs.

You have my every sympathy but hope this helps!