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Am I being really lazy by sleeping in the day?

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HappyGoLuckyGirl · 05/09/2013 12:18

I have a 10 week old DS. He's amazing and a very good baby sleep wise. For example, the past few nights he's gone down between 8-8.30pm and slept until 2.30ish.

At this point I'm not feeding him at all through the night (bottle fed) as he doesn't cry when he wakes, just whinges and I can shush and rock him back to sleep. He gets unsettled every half an hour or so until about 5am when I will feed him.

He then goes back down until about 9am. So all in all, a very good sleeper.

Thing is I like to nap when he does during the day, mostly around lunchtime. I have a SIL who I love but is mother bloody earth and she always makes me feel bad for sleeping through the day. Not on purpose as she isn't nasty but just because she says she never went back to sleep during the day, went out for walks every day etc.

So, am I being really lazy or is sleeping through the day okay, even if you have a good sleeper?

Apologies for how long that was!

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YoniBottsBumgina · 05/09/2013 12:19

Oh god no! You have a ten week old!

crazyhamsterbackatlast · 05/09/2013 12:21

God no of course not , I still do & my Ds is 4 .
He never sleeps through ever so by dinner time I can't keep my eyes open

Fancies40Winks · 05/09/2013 12:23

Dear me. You're getting what, 4 hours unbroken sleep until 2.30am then are up most of the night with your baby, and think a nap makes you lazy? If that were me the nap would be my only link with sanity. Sod your sil and enjoy your nap.

MortifiedAdams · 05/09/2013 12:24

Not lazy at all in sleeping - however - he sounds unsettled between 2.30 & 5 and you feed him at five. Id feed him at 2.30, then he may just go back to a full sleep til 5/6.

Lavenderhoney · 05/09/2013 12:30

Sleep when you can- and don't tell her you are. Turn off the phones and door and say you are meditating and must not be disturbed.

As an alternative, you could say " I do workout DVDs, would you like to borrow one?" But that might be mean if she is overweight.

But really, its up to you. What she did is of no relevance - sorry to trot it out again but all babies and mums are different. She isn't an instant expert just because she had dc before you. You will do things differently all the time I expect. Just smile and nod:)

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HappyGoLuckyGirl · 05/09/2013 12:33

I know, I keep telling myself that I have a young baby and should cut myself some slack but I do just feel really guilty.

Mortified - the reason I'm waiting until 5am to feed him is because we've had about 10 days or so of him sleepibg right through, until 5-6am. I don't really want to get him used to a night feed again.

It doesn't help that DSIS always reminds me that her DD was sleeping through by 6 weeks and that by 3 months babies can and should be sleeping the whole night without any feeds. Sad

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HappyGoLuckyGirl · 05/09/2013 12:36

Lavender Grin that meditation plan is a good idea! She's very straight laced so it would definitely not sit very well, haha.

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UC · 05/09/2013 12:36

Ignore her, on all counts. Sleep when you want to!

Fancies40Winks · 05/09/2013 12:38

Your sil is a pain in the arse. She'll get a nasty shock if she has a non-sleeping DC2. Don't worry about her, you're doing great.

Binkybix · 05/09/2013 12:42

My 11 week old is no where near sleeping through! Your sil is wrong and stupid :) nap away!

MortifiedAdams · 05/09/2013 12:49

Well, my dd is nearly two and tucked up for her nap and so am I. Tell your sis night night from super lazy Mortified!

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HappyGoLuckyGirl · 05/09/2013 12:58

You're all right. Thank you for putting me straight! I'm going to nap away Grin

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AidanTheRevengeNinja · 05/09/2013 19:33

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neversleepagain · 05/09/2013 19:58

My twins are nearly one and occasionally most days I nap in the afternoon when they do. Plus they were (and still are) very good sleepers so I am getting 9+ solid hours sleep at night.

DP thinks I am very busy doing housework Grin

IShallCallYouSquishy · 05/09/2013 20:11

I had a lovely snooze on the sofa while my 15 month old napped this afternoon.

10 weeks old? Christ I still spent whole mornings/afternoons in bed sleeping on and off while she did!

Lazy? No chance. Very sensible? Most definitely Smile

bohoec · 05/09/2013 20:14

Good grief... You GAVE BIRTH 10 weeks ago. Sleep as much and for as long as you like while you can (I'm back at work now - if it wasn't frowned upon to sleep at your desk I would!)

upanddown83 · 05/09/2013 20:17

I have 14 week old ds and love to nap with him we do it often
I just don't tell too many people as I often got comments like you have from your sil so I just stopped telling certin people everything we did especially my ds's eating and sleeping habits saves me listening to their 'advice'!
Enjoy nap time!

Bunbaker · 05/09/2013 20:23

Of course you aren't being lazy by catching up with your sleep. I am concerned, however, that you don't feed him in the night when he wakes. He is only 10 weeks old and far too little to go several hours without a feed, regardless of how he is fed. I would just give him a bottle and he might settle more readily.

gintastic · 05/09/2013 20:25

3 months old can and should be sleeping through? My 9mo missed that memo, I nap if I get a chance :-) sadly back to work next week and I don't think sleeping at my desk is going to cut it!

Sleep when you can!

Yorkieaddict · 05/09/2013 20:28

No you are not being lazy. I used to nap in the day before having DS. I still do when I get chance, although that is not often these days. When you have a tiny baby I would say its the only way to survive with your sanity intact!

mrsharrystyles · 05/09/2013 20:31

I like a nice little sleep during the day if I can. My youngest is 19............ Years!!

BrianTheMole · 05/09/2013 20:35

Hell, sometime my nearly 4 yr old has a nap in the day. I'm straight in to bed when that happens.

sharond101 · 05/09/2013 22:35

Sounds like he needs fed at 2.30am, he is only 10weeks and if he is unsettled until 5am surely you are just leaving him hungry?

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HappyGoLuckyGirl · 06/09/2013 00:26

So the consensus is that sleeping through the day is definitely not a bad thing. Woo, more sleep for me then Grin

Re. the feeding at night, the reason I haven't given him a bottle when he started waking at 2.30 was because he had already done about 10 days straight of sleeping through, from about 9pm til 5/6am, so I know he is fine to go that long without a bottle.

I'm unsure as to why he started waking again (last night was the third night but he slept til 4am) and didn't want to get him used to a bottle again if he wasn't really hungry.

I have decided to feed him tonight if he wakes and see if takes it all or just comfort feeds back to sleep. Smile

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Lavenderhoney · 06/09/2013 04:11

He might be having a growth spurt so he might be needing a bit extra and not be able to manage to go without milk as he needs it. Just when you think you have the hang of it, everything changes- that's how I used to feel:)

I hope he sleeps ok and you get your sleep.

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