I'm so bored - in a dark room rocking / feeding to sleep

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Have 3 mo dd2 who sleeps brilliantly once I get her down, but it takes hours to get her so asleep that I can put her into the cot.

I know it won't last forever and I do enjoy the cuddles, but I'm so bored spending my evenings in the dark on my iPhone, and I'm starting to get hacked off with the minute movements that wake her as I try and transfer her to bed. She's to young for sleep training, and anyway she sleeps through once she's down, so I know I should be grateful. But I'd like to watch telly/see DH/call my family once in a while.

Anyone else out there? shameless winge

Not exactly the same - DS is only five weeks - but I feel your pain about the putting them down/minute movement waking them! I seem to be so heavy handed with DS, it's unreal! It's like I've lost all ability to be gentle and capable of dexterous movement!

Woah, a lot of exclamation points there. This is what motherhood does to me

Was just about to suggest a smartphone if you have one . I feel your pain. DS usually sleeps through but woke at 4.47am this morning in tears, no idea why. It took me an hour, including half of it with me lying on the floor next to his cot, to get him back to sleep. I couldn't even put the phone on because as soon as he saw the light from it he was standing up in his cot, wide awake . He's 2.2 and doesn't usually do this so I was a bit miffed by the time I crawled back to bed at 5.50am.

Oh god, not currently, but I will be again in about three months . And I remember how shit it is from last time .

Sympathy. I bought a iPad instead of using my phone and it really helped.

Triple click reverses colours on iPhones/iPads and cuts light output dramatically.

Just saying.

I'm going in for the put-down now. She's on my shoulder so it will be infinitesimal movements towards horizontal before hitting the cot.

No doubt see you back here in five minutes

Haha that was me 9 months ago.

Dd is now 1 and it got easier quite quickly afterwards.

So hang in there
THIS TOO SHALL PASS

Thanks for the support. Here I am. Feeding to sleep. The vertical to horizontal is so hard to get right, so going for her falling asleep horizontal instead.

This isn't cluster feeding its nibbling for comfort!!! Aaargh

trying to get my 10 week old to sleep is impossible he is so unsettled. we swaddle and he is that fidgety he escapes it. so stressed with no sleep

Crochet I am doing the exact same. In the dark feeding my 3 month old dd to sleep. Really wish I was watching X factor and having a glass of vino with dh but hey ho the cuddles are lovely!! It does all seem endless though. I bathed her at 7 and been here ever since!!

We took off one side of the cot, stuck it against our bed and I learnt to perfect the art of feeding to sleep (both lying down) and then ninja-rolling away sloooooowly.

Hi ivebeengood - I've been here since 6:30, there's so much else I could be doing too!!!

you can watch telly that's what subtitles are for.

Hi obstreporous it's a great idea, and I'd like to try that too. We're moving house on Friday, do I'm planning to reconfigure the bedroom then.

What do you do about winding?

yep been doing alot of that lately, I mean it just doesn't make sense, my 12 week old only naps half an hour at a time during the day so you would think it would be clever to stay asleep once he has been rocked and fed to sleep for ages apparently not

I feel for you and I am begining to worry about being blind in my old age from all of my iphone usage in the dark and its so boring picking it up again and again but its all I have right now so feeling for you

isn't the waking up to play during the night the next phase I despair

Thanks iggly I know it won't last forever!

But how much longer????

I just wish i could perfect the art of typing, scrolling, enjoying a smart phone while bfing obstreperous! I'm not totally confident - or comfortable! - breastfeeding yet so sit hunched over and scrolling long after i've read the page :(

Hi toodlepip yep, that's the worst thing about second/subsequent babies! You know what's next It's the 4 months sleep regression I'm dreading, although obviously I've avoided all the quotes bad sleep habits I created in dd1...

I think it's possible that she's NOT TIRED!!!

Well about 3 months I realised she wanted to be asleep by 6 so did bedtime earlier and she settled faster.

By 4 months I could put her down quicker.

By 6omths I had a proper evening (vs running up and down to resettle)

Like her big brother she has silent reflux/food intolerances whichade OT harder for her to settle, especially of she has wind.

Your giving me some hope iggly although each day sometimes feels like a year on we go

iggly what time did you start settling her if she went to bed at 6? I haven't tried that (partly because I'm worried I'd then be sat in the dark for potentially four hours not three!

I think I need to restrict afternoon sleep. She napped for 3 hours til 5 tonight. Maybe she just wasn't tired...

Started feeding at half 5 with no napping after 3.30pm.

I've aged about 70 years!

Oh and 6pm bedtime didn't last long (thankfully as tricky with older one!) from 4/5 months I pushed it back.

Happy I found this! DS is 16 weeks and I sit in a dark room from 715 and usually don't bother rejoining civilisation again as it takes 2+hrs to feed him to sleep!