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Anyone want to share how totally knackered they are.......

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welshmum · 20/03/2006 13:48

Not really looking for any solutions to this, think it's all just one more bloody phase.(weak )
From sleeping really, really well dd (almost 4) is now waking early, 0530 some days, calling out for up to 3 hours at night sometimes, coughing herself awake then refusing to go back to sleep or a mixture of all 3.
Ds (10 months) is woken by dd and then yells for more than an hour for no apparent reason, wakes soon after 5 (unless its his sister's turn to wake early that day)
Dh will attend to either if woken froma deep sleep to do so by me, he also snores and if not snoring, coughs.
I hear everything and have insomnia too. On some nights I lie awake while everyone is soundly sleeping around me.
Writing this down it all seems ridiculous.
Anyone want to share the hell that is currently their nights....

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babswhite · 20/03/2006 13:57

Oh, you poor thing! And here's me thinking that my 3 year old did it as some kind of attention thing. He wakes, calls and calls and calls - It's not dark anymore...time to get up mum...I need to go to the toilet...can you wipe my bum...

All this is from the other room and is at the top of his voice. After getting him back to bed for the 100th time, I'm so overtired that I can't sleep anyway so I spend the day trying to not take my tiredness out on him, only to look forward to it all again the following morning. All the while, his dad sleeps soundly oblivious to what is going on, the amount of times I've wanted to wake him just so I'm not the only one lacking sleep...dreadful really!

All I do is comfort myself in the knowledge that somewhere down the line there is a full night's sleep waiting for me!

JackieNo · 20/03/2006 14:06

How do the DHs sleep through it? I've got one exactly the same - asleep as soon as his head hits the pillow, snoring 'like a donkey being sawn in half' (his words, not mine!) and completely oblivious to anyone else. You have my sympathies

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welshmum · 20/03/2006 14:26

Thanks all. Just having a bad run of it I guess. We used to have this dream of a daughter and her sleep has gone to pot since the baby became more interesting. I'm sure it's pretty common but that's no comfort at the moment.
As for the dh's I think it's about the mental abdication of responsibility, mine says, on the very rare occasion I've been away for a night he's slept appallingly as he had to 'listen out for the children'

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sparklymieow · 20/03/2006 14:28

My kids get up at 6am, dreading next week when the clocks go forward

throckenholt · 20/03/2006 14:30

clocks going forward helps - it means it will be 7 o'clock

me - my kids work in relays - between 3 of them they only have to wake up every 3rd night to keep me up every night

JackieNo · 20/03/2006 14:30

Clocks going forward is OK, isn't it? If they wake up at 6am now, it will then be 7am after the hour goes forward. It's in the autumn that it's bad, when if they wake up at 6 normally, suddenly the hour goes back and it's 5am.

sparklymieow · 20/03/2006 14:31

but they don't lie in, it will be 7am, but still 6am by my body, and then they won't be tired at bedtime..

sparklymieow · 20/03/2006 14:32

and it will be back to 6am within a few day anyway

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welshmum · 20/03/2006 14:32

In my experience the clocks make little difference, after a couple of days they're back to waking at whichever ridiculous hour they've alighted upon. Bah humbug, have lost all sense of humour.

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Feistybird · 20/03/2006 14:32

oh me.

DD2 threw up Sat night through coughing

DD1 was so knackered when she went to bed last night she (very uncharacteristically) wet the bed.

Am 'shagged out' to use a local expression..

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welshmum · 20/03/2006 14:36

After keeping me awake between 1230 and 2am with coughing, dd woke herself up for the day at 0530, again with coughing. Then this loud voice said 'Cock-a-doodle-do mummy! It's morning time!'
Cock-a-doodle-do...I ask you...

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KVG · 20/03/2006 21:03

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RuthT · 20/03/2006 21:09

Got to wits end, back at work and still up for 3-4 hours a night. It is killing me - I am like a zombie.

Talking to a collegue the other day and wanted to say she had a good home work balance, instead sais she had a good cauliflour work balance because I was thinking about cooking c cheese for little one - god I am losing it

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welshmum · 21/03/2006 14:18

Hello KVG (waves)so very,very sorry that the sleep isn't working out. Forgive me 've forgotten the circs but can't you put DD in with DH and let them fidget together all night? or at least once in a while?
I hate the bloody insomnia the most, it drives me batty. I woke up last night when dd called out in her sleep and then couldn't drop off again for hours (when I did I had a wierd dream about a bulldog jumping into ds' buggy and a lady who had a bag full of toffee and chopped up sausage for her cats!!!)
RuthT - I'm back at work too and swear half the time I make no sense, at your cauliflower work balance.
I know this will all get better pretty soon as everyone has good basic sleeping habits except me but goodness, when you're in the middle of it.....

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KVG · 21/03/2006 20:49

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mogwai · 28/03/2006 22:27

get pissed before you go to bed. You won't remember waking up, and if you're lucky, you'll sleep through the racket

modsaluk · 29/03/2006 22:29

I am so glad to hear we are not the only ones, my DS is six months on Saturday and has a bath at seven/seven thirty and goes to sleep we put him to bed, he generally does not wake until we go to bed, when we do we know about it. About half an hour after we go to be, he crys for his dummy. After that his waking can be between every ten minutes to two hours, and he wakes again at the moment he seems to be waking for no reason, does not want his dummy, not wanting milk/water, but still tired (rubbing his eyes etc) everytime we put him back i lay there thinking "he will wake in a mintue" so by the time i actually get to sleep he is waking again.

He then wants to get up anytime between 4 and 6 this we can cope with we are taking it in turns, its just the waking in the night that kills us, the worst thing is i went back to work three weeks ago part time.

We are thinking of putting DS in his own room in a weeks time, to see if that settles him a little, going to try also leaving him to cry a little longer (just feel so nasty doing this)

Glad there are other mums share the tiredness.

harpsichordcarrier · 29/03/2006 22:30

[too knackered to post emoticon]

CHICagoMUM · 29/03/2006 22:36

dd is 4 ds is 14 months. dd used to sleep so well now wakes uup throughout the night wanders around the house into our room etc, and is determined to tart the day around 6ish. Frequently wakes ds up with her noise (luckily he still settles fairly easily and is a good sleeper generally) DH returns from work late (currently between midnight and 2 am ) so we are all totally knackered most of the time.

The joys of children eh .

notasheep · 29/03/2006 23:03

Started falling asleep at wheel so had to move house.
School run i now walk

Redhead3 · 30/03/2006 10:56

aaarrgghh yes, ours is only 4 month old so maybe my expectations were too high... but she started only waking once at night, sleeping up to 7 hr stretches... bliss! Now she is back to waking every few hours. Goes down ok at 7.30 but then up at 9.30, 11, 1, 3... whereupon she ends up in our bed and i can't sleep properly cos i have to keep checking she hasn't smotheredin the duvet.

Has anyone tried controlled crying or similar?

sophynoo · 06/04/2006 17:35

god we were so exhausted from ds never sleeping that dh fell asleep while driving the 2 of us back from a rare night out and crashed the car,it was a write off .i cut my head open a bit ,had no seatbelt on. dh ok. ds still doesnt sleep.

PiccadillyCircus · 06/04/2006 17:43

I am tired.

6 month old DD has slept through 4 times. Christmas Eve and the three nights after that. She is now in her own room - I am finding myself waking up in the bed in her room and not remembering getting there at all.

peaches27 · 06/04/2006 22:48

Well, I did all this in my 20s and now in my 40s Im doing it all again with my granddaughter. I thought I would be taking trips abroad and having mini breaks, getting p**d and coming in at 2am. But now I get up at 1.30am then again at 4.30 am to feed my darling little granddaughter who is 4 months old. She is beautiful but boy is it harder when you are older. (Yes I do have her 24/7, and her brother who occasionally wakes).

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