Hi ladies - would be extremely grateful for any tips at all - am on my knees with exhaustion and cant see the wood for the trees - affecting everything now - work, marriage, relationship with children...
my dd is 21 months old and has slept all night 3 times in her life - currently a typical night looks like this - after a well embedded bedtime routine - bath, milk, cuddles, story, teeth she is tucked into bed and i have to sit with her til she falls asleep - sometimes for up to 2 hours - while she demands cuddles, lobs her dummy about, shouts, asks to get out, tells me to sit down etc etc....meanwhile my son is having to go to sleep in my bed as they share and he is exhausted - cant sleep with her noise - husband meanwhile huffing and puffing and stomping around downstairs....this bedtime battle only surfaced recently -going to bed nicely used to be the one thing she did do....
then night pattern - wakes up to 5 times a night - from 5 mins to 2 and half hours at a time - i am at the end of my tether - in the mini window of her finally falling asleep and me crashing out from exhaustion i am trying to manage house - mark a million books, plan next days lessons as i am always behind, make packed lunches etc etc etc
have tried - longer naps, later naps, shorter naps, earlier naps, putting children to bed together, making room darker, making colder etc etc etc etc - just dont know what to do next...help me please