DS is 13mths. He has never slept through although he went through a period of only waking once or twice between 6 and 9mths. Usually he wakes 6 or 7 times a night and DH and I are shattered!
We have a good bedtime routine of calm bath followed by bottle in the dark. He needs us to be touching him for him to go to sleep. He used to go down awake and nod off but at 9mths he has a terrible 5wk cold and that stopped. He goes down at 7pm, wakes every hour of hour and a half til 6.30 when he decided it's morning.
We've tried co-sleeping, mattress on floor with us, mattress on floor close to us. Everything we can think of. When he wakes his cry is heartbreaking. Often, even when we go in to settle him, he clings onto us and still cries. He wakes and cries regularly even when snuggled up to us in our bed.
He basically dropped the night feed himself at around 7mths so he isn't feeding in the night.
He's in a grobag because he is very restless and kicks covers off. Is it's very cold I put a blanket over him too.
We paid to go to a sleep clinic who said there was little they could advise as we had done everything right (routine and putting down awake etc) They just said he'd sleep through eventually.
The HV just keeps saying I need to let him cry it out. My previous HV said I'd caused the problem by not letting him cry it out at 11wks (when he reached 11lbs)
Just can't bare to do it no matter how bad it is. But we're desperate to at least help him get a good night's sleep.
Sorry this is long. Thanks for reading. Any advice gratefully recieved.