Just to say that it's really nice to see that some of the really unpleasant comments in AIBU are being acted on and deleted. There's a thread at the moment where the usual nastiness has come out fast in response to the OP, and the posts I've reported and others have been deleted and a forthright statement of what's not acceptable has been posted by @ClaraMumsnet.
The level of unpleasantness has been so bad in recent times that it's simply not worth posting anything asking for support, generally. It will take time to reverse that and give people confidence in posting again. But this is a good start.
Thank you.
NB: Unwarranted nastiness is not the same as straight talking, imo. Straight talking can be very unpleasant to read at first but necessary (specially if the person's right!). But you can always tell the difference between people out to hurt and people out to help, even if brusquely.