I've been around for 18 years

[JockTamsonsBairns]

What the heck is going on?

I've just posted an inoculous thread on AIBU, and I've been torn to shreds.

I've been around here since 2007, and I genuinely don't understand this hostility.

When did the vibe change so massively?

Are we all ok with this?

This isn't what Mumsnet used to be.

Blimey! If you think that’s being “torn to shreds” can I direct you to the Education or Politics or Royal Family boards!

I remember you from a million years ago, by the way! I remember someone questioning your user name. Nice to “see you”

Dude. One person wrote you a slightly snippy response. Mumsnet has ALWAYS been like this. I've been here 17 years and seen SO MANY of these threads. I even started one once when I was feeling sensitive!

MN was really nasty around 2005 when I joined

Posters used tear each other to shreds in quite a vile way

So I stopped for a few years

Apart from a few savage posters it’s much better now

Just don’t engage though with the posters making snippy comments.

don’t bite with them because that’s what those particular keyboard warriors want.

So I don’t give them what they want.
They’re no fun for me to read either. I get no enjoyment from the spiteful posters. They bore me.

I joined when DD was born in 2003 and it was always known then that AIBU was a board not for the faint hearted. Where do you think the term vipers came from?

It's dreadful here, I don't post much but would never start a thread

Are you stalking

No one is forcing you to stay if there is nothing on the whole site that you find positive.

You must be hard work in real life if you think you were “torn to shreds” on your thread. Were you bollocks. I can’t stand people who just want to moan and aren’t actually interested in a solution because if they’re giving a solution they can’t moan and whinge anymore.

I’ve been on MN for 18 years. There have been lots of changes but I don’t think people have got nastier. If anything, I find it a bit blander than it used to be. People used to ‘know’ each other on here which which meant it was funnier, but often resulted in cliques and personal attacks. I rarely see that now. But, I stopped going on AIBU very soon after I joined as it like being in a room with drunk people. Avoid AIBU OP. Try Chat instead.

innocuous

@JockTamsonsBairns the pattern I usually see with AIBU threads is that the poster doesn’t really want helpful suggestions (because they’ve probably already thought of those themselves but they don’t want to pick those options) they just want a place to have a moan and be told their feelings are valid.

Yes I see the annoyance in your situation with booking a Drs appointment but there ARE many ways around it, you just want a solution that falls into your lap.

Posters were just frustrated with you OP because the solution was simple and obvious - ring on your day off and book the day off for your appointment. It’s what we all have to do.

I've been around on and off since 2009 and it's always been like that.

As have the 'MN didn't used to be like this, why is everyone so horrible?' threads that occur every few days :)

Yes, or just say you’re venting!

If you're an oldie then you should know not to start a thread in AIBU 😉

Penis beaker is what happened to MN, ruined the place.

It wasn't all fields even before PB.

I got ripped to shreds on many occasions in my pre-PB posting on AIBU days. Even what seem to be the most straightforward threads have always had people willfully misreading or misinterpreting and going in on the attack.

It's always been that way from my experience from 2009.

Just seen this.
I was in a pretty bad place a couple of weeks ago, so definitely shouldn't have posted on AIBU.

And, I agree, I wasn't "torn to shreds" at all. I was just feeling a bit emotionally fragile, and all out of sorts.

There was other stuff getting to me a few weeks ago, but I put my focus on to this - which wasn't the right channel.

I've been around long enough now to know that posting on AIBU isn't really a good move when feeling emotionally fragile.

Feeling slightly embarrassed now at being so 'delicate'.

I'm no stranger around here, and I knew what AIBU was like.

Apologies.

@JockTamsonsBairns Fair play to you for coming back. I hope things have improved for you

Hope you’re feeling better @JockTamsonsBairns