I’m getting really fed up of my posts being deleted.

[WellingtonBootilicious]

I say nothing inflammatory. No rascism, no sexism, no xenophobia. Because that is not me, I would never.

So why are my posts being deleted? I’m adding to the discussion. Sometimes I may question if a pp is being deliberately stupid… is that a legitimate reason to be deleted?

How thin skinned are we supposed to be to use this website? It’s becoming pointless even bothering to make a post.

I made a genuine post about about how knife crime is a serious problem within major cities. Low & behold, it’s been deleted. I made some genuine points in the post, ones that could lead to a positive discussion. I’m starting to give up on MN, no other website is policed to this extent.

I agree that hate crimes should be deleted. Of course. But I have done nothing of the sort.

Asking if someone is stupid is patronising, rude and unnecessary. No wonder your hate speech is being deleted, I’m just utterly shocked that you felt entitled enough in your attitude to make this thread questioning the normal consequences to your quite rude approach.

Perhaps try not to sarcastically ask if someone is stupid and your post won’t be deleted due to bullying.

Well, yes. They will know who I am. Name change or not. I’ve been here well over ten years.

This is just silly now. If I knew I could’ve got in touch with mn another way then I wouldn’t have bothered with a post on here.
But clearly I’m a bit daft!

I can’t see the difference tbh. The second item implies the first: the answer to the question is assumed.

Yes, that's been established over 9 pages.
I've been ignorant and had a go at @WellingtonBootilicious but they can't do anything more than they've done to apologise.

I don't think anybody would question their deleted posts knowing they'd face a 9 page pile on.
Some of us may have not used the word stupid, it's certainly been implied though.

Let @WellingtonBootilicious get some rest. They haven't committed a crime. I was guilty by assumption and then read it was only 2 posts.
We can't all be hardcore rule breakers. Often we're not. Sometimes a poster if offended will get a little trigger happy with that report button. Wankers.

Lets let @WellingtonBootilicious get some rest now. She's learned thd hard way that you don't ask if someone is stupid. I've seen much worse.
Calling people mental - see above. You can choose to be offended or you can give no shits.

I'm giving no shits.

Are you daft?!!

You don't need to get in touch. They'll be in your inbox if there's a problem.

Apparently. 🤣

Anyway, I should have been in bed 7 minutes ago, so I shall bid thee all a calmded downded night.

You’ve had numerous posts deleted, why do you think that is? From one clunky sentence on the internet? I don’t think so. You told someone to fuck off further up in the thread.

haha no just jumping on the back of your response - it was very random though from OP

You’re a lovely soul ❤️
I am off to get some rest with my tail firmly between my legs.

You know what bullying is?
Bullying is the use of force, coercion, hurtful teasing, comments, or threats, in order to abuse, aggressively dominate, or intimidate one or more others. The behavior is often repeated and habitual.

No one has done this in the comments to op. It’s Op that is telling people to “fuck off” and is using hurtful and aggressive language.

Because it’s just pandering

Oh behave. I am not a bully. We all reach the end our rope.
I’m honestly not sure what else I’m suppose to do to appease you strangers on the internet?

I don’t need to pander to anyone. I don’t know you?!

Ah, well you've taken such a pounding that you and your tail deserve some rest regardless.

That means switching off and not replying to every new poster wanting a pile on.
Don't wake up with anxiety in the morning. I know you will. This is an online forum, nobody else will have anxiety - they'll want to see the fight continued for entertainment.

Maybe ask about getting this deleted, then crack on with what is important.

You've got a shit way with words. I've seen plenty worse that doesn't get button pushed.
Don't rise to it.

Sleep well.

And yes, I can be a right arsehole but you've taken enough for a comment that doesn't justify the vitriol. So switch off and ignore. Don't try and cut your own head off, it won't end well and you'll end up with a scratched neck!
Night night wally.

I think there's a lot more deleting going on than there used to be. I have been deleted a few times, once I was so shocked that I contacted MN myself to find out why (by email). They told me that lots of people had reported my post as "highly insensitive" and that they agreed. They didn't actually elaborate on what made it insensitive and I thought "what a bunch of snowflakes" but since then I have been careful with everything, turns of phrase, questions, not getting riled up, not addressing others who are clearly riled up. It takes a lot of discipline to "fit in".

Gosh, that's a bit much.

In some ways I think stupid is worse. Cunt is a horrible word but as an insult I find it fairly vague and meaningless. Whereas stupid implies thick / low IQ / dense. More insulting I’d say.

Sorry @WellingtonBootilicious, I haven't even finished all of your posts yet, never mind the Mumsnetters responding to you, but I just couldn't bring myself to wait that long - there are already 9 ages to read through - as I found your above post genuinely (definitely not nastily) absolutely hilarious.

To paraphrase a little, and unfortunately I am not known for my paraphrasing skills:

"I am struggling to understand why calling someone a descriptive word like 'stupid', when they are patently too thick to understand the point I am trying to make, is being considered rude or insulting?"
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Do you think that if you keep on with this thread OP, that you might actually be able to comprehend that generally speaking (that the man on the Clapham omnibus) would find you questioning their mental ability, rather rude, and/or insulting? This is Mumsnet's site and they have told you it is rude, many of the responders to your post have told you they find it rude. You even appeared at one time to accept that it is considered rude on this site, and you apologised for it; but deep down you can't have meant that apology - although I am sure you thought you did at the time - so you came up with the above quote. Like I said, I am finding that so funny, please tell me that you get the irony of it!

By the way OP, this probably isn't reciprocated, but I think that I would like you quite a lot in real life!

I hope I haven't broken any Mumsnet rules here, but if I have I will accept my 'punishment' with good grace, and of course apologise profusely.

Serious NB: I have had a few of my posts deleted over the years, I think at least one of them was because I voiced - well typed - my thought that the particular OP on whatever thread it was, might have been a troll. Having re-read the rules after that, I think that Mumsnet actually have very good reasons for not allowing that sort of behaviour. To my lasting shame, on one occassion, under a different name, I once made an awful error of judgement, which I think Mumsnet could have reasonably banned me for. I have no defence for myself really, except that the OP had unintentially (of course) triggered a traumatic memory of mine, and I didn't stop to think before replying. I was, and still am, very sorry about that, I just hope and pray that it didn't actually cause that OP any damage.

In reality, I really appreciate this site, it has actually made quite a huge - and sometimes a very painful - contribution to me learning about myself, and that although I already thought myself to be generally kind and compassionate, I had, and still have a long way to go. One of the most important things that I have learned so far, as both a MiL and a grandmother, is to try to lose my ego. I don't believe that either of those wonderful titles benefit from me having an ego. I am still working on other situations!

Sorry OP for side tracking! 💐 xx

Surely if somebody calls you stupid, especially online then you'd have the intelligence to reply denying their opinion.

If somebody calls you a cunt, there is no comeback other than too right, you know your cunts, I'll give you that.

How do you deny being stupid? Do you just say ‘no, I’m not stupid’? Not overly compelling is it.

One of the reasons I hate personal attacks like that on mumsnet is because they’re such discussion-killers. Ironically they are usually employed by those struggling to keep up with the conversation themselves and can’t think of a better way to articulate their point.

Perhaps it isn’t. Bye.

I think MN can be a bit like primary school sometimes with posters calling each other names and others running off to tell the teacher on them.

You've got your answer. All you need to do is avoid writing 'Are you stupid?' (or similar) in your posts. You might not mean it as a personal attack but it can be interpreted that way. It's easy to rephrase it in a more constructive way: 'have you thought about...?', 'I wonder why you think...?' etc.

Now you're bordering on being insulting again. Either it's deliberate or you just don't understand rational argument. Or maybe you are TOO thick-skinned!