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I’m getting really fed up of my posts being deleted.

237 replies

WellingtonBootilicious · 22/05/2025 21:15

I say nothing inflammatory. No rascism, no sexism, no xenophobia. Because that is not me, I would never.

So why are my posts being deleted? I’m adding to the discussion. Sometimes I may question if a pp is being deliberately stupid… is that a legitimate reason to be deleted?

How thin skinned are we supposed to be to use this website? It’s becoming pointless even bothering to make a post.

I made a genuine post about about how knife crime is a serious problem within major cities. Low & behold, it’s been deleted. I made some genuine points in the post, ones that could lead to a positive discussion. I’m starting to give up on MN, no other website is policed to this extent.

I agree that hate crimes should be deleted. Of course. But I have done nothing of the sort.

OP posts:
Arina22 · 23/05/2025 00:17

Personal insults are not allowd op

Are you stupid is a personal insult and should be deleted.

Youre meant to attack the post, not the poster. So you could write "i disagree with the post'

FlakyCritic · 23/05/2025 00:23

OP, (hand hold because you're getting a hard time on here) I understand you and I agree. This site is often like walking on egg shells on a minefield. It is a very hair trigger interventionist site. I am a member on many message boards and have been so over the years, and real bunfights are allowed and far more argy bargy than on here. The other sites I'm on the mods never ever intervene unless it's something illegal or racist or it's a personal threat. In fact, the dobber would be banned by the mods on other boards. Here though it is extremely interventionist. We're all adults here, no one should be reporting anything unless it's illegal or racist. This forum is like no other I've ever been on (and I've managed a few myself too), it can be really exhausting just phrasing a post. And I won't even start on the politically correct stuff about 'mental' etc (just roll my eyes in the back of my head).

It brings to mind the song 'the world seems difficult' by Mental As Anything. I wonder if they'll have to change their name now? (eyeroll)

TheBig50 · 23/05/2025 00:24

Boreded · 23/05/2025 00:17

And quoting something a decade old 🫣 - times have definitely changed since then

I thought you meant me then. I can be a vicious cow but I'm happy to admit when I'm talking to myself on a zombie thread (old people's AI)

However...! Yes, that was some link from the depths of Google. Like wheeling your ignorant granny out.

FlakyCritic · 23/05/2025 00:24

NattyTurtle59 · 23/05/2025 00:09

I've had posts deleted in the past also OP without having said anything particularly bad. Some posters are happy to dish out insults but run crying to MN admins when someone has had enough and gives it back. We are supposed to be adults - if someone takes offence at "are you stupid?" (and I've seen much worse, which is somehow okay) then they are - sorry - a snowflake.

Completely agree. On other forums, the mods would ban and boot those posters arses for being troublemakers.

ByZanyRubyOrca · 23/05/2025 00:25

NattyTurtle59 · 23/05/2025 00:09

I've had posts deleted in the past also OP without having said anything particularly bad. Some posters are happy to dish out insults but run crying to MN admins when someone has had enough and gives it back. We are supposed to be adults - if someone takes offence at "are you stupid?" (and I've seen much worse, which is somehow okay) then they are - sorry - a snowflake.

I’ve actually read a few of your comments on other posts and not at all surprised by this, it’s probably got something to do from the all personal attacks you post, not that they’re a snowflake 👀

LoafofSellotape · 23/05/2025 00:26

In my experience nice people don't call people mental and stupid and I'm sure you know that 😉

WellingtonBootilicious · 23/05/2025 00:26

Ok, I get it. I was wrong. I totally accept that.
I will take this as a learning curve.
If MN think I’ve crossed the line then hopefully I will get a ban so I’m not second guessing myself.

It was genuinely a turn of phrase. Maybe not one used in every household in Ireland, but it was in mine. As I’m typing it, I’m hearing it in my head. But obviously it’s not read that way.

I do feel like I’ve been sentenced to a terrible crime I didn’t commit. I feel the online life is not for me. Which is a shame as I feel a lot of you guys are wonderful. But fucking hell, you go in hard.
Maybe it’s just your turn of phrase 😆😭

OP posts:
WellingtonBootilicious · 23/05/2025 00:28

TheBig50 · 23/05/2025 00:24

I thought you meant me then. I can be a vicious cow but I'm happy to admit when I'm talking to myself on a zombie thread (old people's AI)

However...! Yes, that was some link from the depths of Google. Like wheeling your ignorant granny out.

It was literally the first link on google. I won’t accept blame for that.

OP posts:
TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 23/05/2025 00:28

You keep saying you understand and you're sorry, then you double down and start justifying yourself again.

ByZanyRubyOrca · 23/05/2025 00:28

LoafofSellotape · 23/05/2025 00:26

In my experience nice people don't call people mental and stupid and I'm sure you know that 😉

Nice people don’t call themselves nice either

WellingtonBootilicious · 23/05/2025 00:32

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TheBig50 · 23/05/2025 00:33

FlakyCritic · 23/05/2025 00:23

OP, (hand hold because you're getting a hard time on here) I understand you and I agree. This site is often like walking on egg shells on a minefield. It is a very hair trigger interventionist site. I am a member on many message boards and have been so over the years, and real bunfights are allowed and far more argy bargy than on here. The other sites I'm on the mods never ever intervene unless it's something illegal or racist or it's a personal threat. In fact, the dobber would be banned by the mods on other boards. Here though it is extremely interventionist. We're all adults here, no one should be reporting anything unless it's illegal or racist. This forum is like no other I've ever been on (and I've managed a few myself too), it can be really exhausting just phrasing a post. And I won't even start on the politically correct stuff about 'mental' etc (just roll my eyes in the back of my head).

It brings to mind the song 'the world seems difficult' by Mental As Anything. I wonder if they'll have to change their name now? (eyeroll)

Massive Attack had to change their name for a while.

Mental As Anything wasn't a phrase aimed at anyone through. I've been mentally ill for my entire life, medicated too (I know!). I'm mental as anything, crazy, bonkers, stupid in some ways and highly intelligent in others.

It's when you use those phrases to insult another person that things tend to go awry.
You can't call me mental, whether it be as anything or as nothing. You don't know me, therefore you would be insulting me.
Unless of course, you know better. You don't though.

If you're finding the forum (the entire?) is like walking on eggshells, then I suggest it's not for you. I hope your eyes get better.

CrackSpackle · 23/05/2025 00:35

WellingtonBootilicious · 22/05/2025 22:05

But is the word stupid so insulting? That’s what I’m struggling to grasp. It’s just a descriptive word for someone who isn’t getting what I mean?

. . . do you mean like how you “aren’t getting” what everyone here has clearly explained to you? Confused

WellingtonBootilicious · 23/05/2025 00:38

CrackSpackle · 23/05/2025 00:35

. . . do you mean like how you “aren’t getting” what everyone here has clearly explained to you? Confused

And I’ve already accepted and admitted I was wrong and that I won’t throw words around again.
is that enough for you?

OP posts:
TheBig50 · 23/05/2025 00:39

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From what I have read - you have had 2 posts deleted.
You're still posting.
You haven't been banned.
Not everyone is going to agree with you though, decapitated or not.
I'd rather not.

ByZanyRubyOrca · 23/05/2025 00:39

WellingtonBootilicious · 23/05/2025 00:38

And I’ve already accepted and admitted I was wrong and that I won’t throw words around again.
is that enough for you?

And maybe don’t tell people to fuck off.

TheBig50 · 23/05/2025 00:41

@WellingtonBootilicious

Get some rest. Get some new Wellies.

Tomorrow is another day.

ByZanyRubyOrca · 23/05/2025 00:42

TheBig50 · 23/05/2025 00:39

From what I have read - you have had 2 posts deleted.
You're still posting.
You haven't been banned.
Not everyone is going to agree with you though, decapitated or not.
I'd rather not.

No, she’s admitted she’s named changed and had more than two post deleted over the years… can’t remember though. Doesn’t keep track. Could 4 posts could be 400.

TheBig50 · 23/05/2025 00:42

TheBig50 · 23/05/2025 00:41

@WellingtonBootilicious

Get some rest. Get some new Wellies.

Tomorrow is another day.

Unless it's today.

SnowFrogJelly · 23/05/2025 00:43

FuckityFux · 22/05/2025 21:47

I see it as a North v South issue.

Where I’m from we call a spade a spade and will be blunt, but perfectly honest and clear.

However, a lot of southerners take offence as they’d rather ‘tell little white lies’ than actually speak honestly with someone and tell them what the problem really is.

Luckily, just like in real life, we can choose to ignore them. 😂

This is pretty racist against southerners

WellingtonBootilicious · 23/05/2025 00:44

ByZanyRubyOrca · 23/05/2025 00:42

No, she’s admitted she’s named changed and had more than two post deleted over the years… can’t remember though. Doesn’t keep track. Could 4 posts could be 400.

So? I’m obviously not a menace otherwise I wouldn’t still be here. Like I say, I used a clunky sentence on the internet, I’m not evil fgs.

OP posts:
SnowFrogJelly · 23/05/2025 00:44

My post got deleted for saying poo troll

oops I said it again

Traceysgoingtobelivid · 23/05/2025 00:45

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 23/05/2025 00:28

You keep saying you understand and you're sorry, then you double down and start justifying yourself again.

Oh just stop, this is turning into bullying now, the OP has apologised, you have laid into her enough on this thread, maybe reflect on your own online behaviour before berating others.

TheBig50 · 23/05/2025 00:45

ByZanyRubyOrca · 23/05/2025 00:42

No, she’s admitted she’s named changed and had more than two post deleted over the years… can’t remember though. Doesn’t keep track. Could 4 posts could be 400.

MN keep track of usernames. They look at reported posts and they will message and ban you.
I've been on the receiving end of a temp ban.
They're not going to let Welly Boots through for shits and giggles.

TheBig50 · 23/05/2025 00:46

WellingtonBootilicious · 23/05/2025 00:44

So? I’m obviously not a menace otherwise I wouldn’t still be here. Like I say, I used a clunky sentence on the internet, I’m not evil fgs.

Exactly.

Quit whilst you're ahead (sort of!)

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