you actually engaged with us. But I can only find two messages (and that in site stuff, not in chat (although they were maybe a bit unmumsnetty rude 
) where you actually say anything. And not much of anything.
It's like being on a train that's stopped in the middle of nowhere, it is so much better if you know there has been a signal failure or a fatality on the line. So much easier if you know what's going on.