Blow jobs without vomiting?

[summerbreeze90]

Just started seeing someone new, who really enjoys blow jobs. More so than previous partners.

Difficulty is, I have a small mouth and a very present gag reflex. On the last two occasions I have vomited after, presumably from taking him too deep. Any tips on how I can improve this?

Use mostly hand, just put the top bit into your mouth.

Maybe use some flavoured lube or him to use a condom?

If you've vomited after, how long after? A gag reflex is pretty much instantaneous, so if you've sucked him off and then thrown up, that suggests something entirely different.

Don't try to swallow all of him. A large part of BJs is psychological. More than you might expect. And vomiting isn't going to be good for you or him.
You only need to suck the first inch or three, and if you can suck a Solero icecream, you can manage that.
Aim for and experience you're comfortable with, then focus on enjoying his pleasure.

Thanks all. I felt sick immediately after, and vomited maybe a minute later. I am not overly experienced and I think part of it is that I want to do a good job! But I will try and take less in and use my hand. On a couple of occasions he has put his hand on my head, but I am going to tell him not to do that in future.

Good luck!

For the vast majority of us, sex should be both passionate and comfortable. It is really not a competition to see how much you can take in your mouth. Gently does it and slowly does it. And communicate. x

I’ve got a poor throat reflex- although it’s fine if I know he’s near climax and expect it.

But, hand invokved, flavoured lube and just the end in your mouth can work well. And no head shove down - do it at your own comfort.

And, as I don’t particularly like the taste, I keep a glass of juice nearby to wash it down.

are you vomiting because he’s finishing in your mouth or is it because of your gag reflex? I don’t like the taste so DH doesn’t finish in my mouth, we’re both happy with that. There are an awful lot of nerve endings in the tip of the penis and the connecting tissue between the head and the foreskin, you could experiment with concentrating your tongue in those areas rather than trying to take too much of his penis in your mouth.

You can give a really lovely BJ without even putting it in your mouth at all. Use your lips and tongue on the underside of the head, in that notch where the glans meets the shaft. That's where all the feels are... it's really exciting

My two go to BJ tips are lube and utilising the balls. The lube was after listening to the shameless sex podcast I’d never considered it before bought there recommended uber lube as was silicone and tasteless and it improved both giving and receiving oral for me UL is a bit expensive but it’s fantastic stuff.

Regarding the balls a very experienced ex was really into TMI licking balls . She did like then hair free. If you like to receive BJ then this addition just enhances the experience and give you a break from having you mouth open . I now possibly like the ball aspect more than a BJ and subsequent partners have been surprised at that but it has worked out well for me .

If you look at the development and structure of the vulva . All of there parts are there in different forms in the male genitalia. I’d describe a BJ like a lick job that only focuses on the clit. Mix it up a bit give yourself a break without stopping the sensations for him and you could find he’s a very happy boy x

Think 'eating an ice cream' rather than sword-swallowing, as 90% of all sensation is around the head.

Most importantly, only do it if you enjoy it - it shouln't be a big deal.

Absolutely, ignore the porn versions, most men are ecstatic with the eating an ice cream style

^^ Great advice