Ideas for trying new things in bed as a couple

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I’ve been with my partner for a year and we are both extremely passionate and love intimacy.

We have both recently expressed that we want to be adventurous in bed, try new things and explore more. Games, toys, etc, we’ve both said we’re up for trying anything.

So far we’ve experimented with anal, a basic cock ring, and sex in different areas of the house. What’s your best experimental experiences and what would you recommend.

I wanted to suggest watching soft porn together but although we’ve got amazing trust, I’m not sure if this is a thing and he’ll find it a bit weird?

*Note, neither of us are into involving anyone else (threesomes etc).

I know you're after ideas and there's a boilerplate list of these below. We sometimes lose sight here of how personal and magical sex can be. My first question would be "what have you always wanted to try" and work through that list to pinpoint some things you might both like.

You've not mentioned role play, a power dynamic (either way), edging/teasing, and there's always more space for toys if that's your thing.

Have fun, and I agree: the thought of additional people both terrifies and makes me sad, so stick with the two of you. Plenty of enjoyment ahead.

You can always involve a “third party” mentally without having to carry it through x

A blindfold makes a massive difference, depriving one of your primary senses- makes the others work a bit harder

We tried this last week. I ended up in the garden.

Take it outside the house, risk of getting caught is a massive turn on, changing rooms, car, quiet train…find your own risky place!

Play with whos in charge, either be very demanding or very submissive. Also whats the point in a cock ring

Put a cage on him and tease him. Let him out when you’re satisfied.

We don't watch porn as such, but we do have a collection of the Lovers Guide DVDs which are labelled as educational but are, in effect, porn. They are tastefully done and give equal weight to male and female pleasure.

The first one came out in the 1980s or 90s, so the clothes (when they're wearing any) and hairstyles look incredibly dated. Easily the most enjoyable of the set, for us, is the interactive one which lets you view the same scene from a male, female or neutral perspective. Of course DVDs are old technology now so you might not have a player...