long term poster but NC for this post. Wife and I have always been very open in conversations but she recently asked if I had any secrets that I’ve never told her about and she said she’s always wanted to tell me but never knew how I’d react and I was pretty confident nothing could shock me about her but this has really thrown me 😂. She said when she was early 20’s she was out one night and bumped into someone quite a few years older than her that is extremely close to her family and after a few drinks in a bar he suggested going back to hers which she said yes to and carried on drinking, anyway one thing lead to another and ended up sleeping together and said it was great and on a few more occasions they bumped into each other and it happened but she soon realised how wrong it was and they stopped. I’ve never met the person and he is completely out of her families life now, normally I wouldn’t be bothered about but because of dynamic of who it was it’s made me think that was weird and she’s said she now thinks the same but at the time she didn’t see it as an issue.