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Where to find submissive men?

17 replies

RendezvousBientot · 13/06/2026 20:56

I’ve named changed for this but I am a frequent poster. I have a lot of fantasies about being with someone submissive, I’m 36, divorced and entering into a new era sexually where I want more. My friends have always told me I’d be a great dominatrix and I’d like to explore that. I know what I want, and I love the idea of being worshipped but I don’t know where to find men who would be interested in an arrangement like that? Do I go on Tinder and put it in my bio? Any ideas would be welcome.

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DreamyLimeWasp · 13/06/2026 20:57

RendezvousBientot · 13/06/2026 20:56

I’ve named changed for this but I am a frequent poster. I have a lot of fantasies about being with someone submissive, I’m 36, divorced and entering into a new era sexually where I want more. My friends have always told me I’d be a great dominatrix and I’d like to explore that. I know what I want, and I love the idea of being worshipped but I don’t know where to find men who would be interested in an arrangement like that? Do I go on Tinder and put it in my bio? Any ideas would be welcome.

I'd go for Feeld as it caters more for kinks like this. Good luck.. sounds very exciting.

everywhichway · 13/06/2026 21:22

I suspect a few of them will come to you on here now!

BottomOfTheSea · 13/06/2026 22:30

Sounds wonderful apart from me not being the gender you're after!

DixonD · 13/06/2026 23:47

I’ve chatted to a few on here in the past; I think they’ll find you 😂

Namechangedforhere · 14/06/2026 00:12

I'm a sub man, I absolutely love it. Have had a little luck on fabswingers but not lots.

I did sign up for Feeld but never really followed up on looking. Might give it another go.

What is it about you that makes your friends think you would make a good dominatrix? I worked with a woman who felt she would be good, but she just wanted to hurt men and cause them pain. I didn't offer myself up for that, but a good dominatrix would be good to have an arrangement with.

ThisZippyTurtle · 14/06/2026 08:07

Would recommend Feeld too. Takes effort to really inhabit the dominant role, sometimes more than people understand. As a PP said, would be nice to know what appeals to you about this. Worship is a specialist part of being dominant but do the other strands appeal, too? And there's so many paths to follow just on worship too.

RendezvousBientot · 14/06/2026 08:16

Thanks everyone, will definitely try Feeld. I wouldn’t want to hurt anyone 🤣 I’m very strict, have high standards and want to be pleasured! I’m getting a bit more selfish about my needs in my later years!

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Angela59 · 14/06/2026 09:00

RendezvousBientot · 14/06/2026 08:16

Thanks everyone, will definitely try Feeld. I wouldn’t want to hurt anyone 🤣 I’m very strict, have high standards and want to be pleasured! I’m getting a bit more selfish about my needs in my later years!

Go girl!!!
Enjoyed my own style for years
and
It can get all your housework done !
😂

RendezvousBientot · 14/06/2026 09:02

Angela59 · 14/06/2026 09:00

Go girl!!!
Enjoyed my own style for years
and
It can get all your housework done !
😂

Ha! Love that! The housework needs to be done before anyone takes their clothes off 😆

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Namechangedforhere · 14/06/2026 09:02

RendezvousBientot · 14/06/2026 08:16

Thanks everyone, will definitely try Feeld. I wouldn’t want to hurt anyone 🤣 I’m very strict, have high standards and want to be pleasured! I’m getting a bit more selfish about my needs in my later years!

Nothing wrong with what you are proposing! Best of luck 😁

BottomOfTheSea · 14/06/2026 09:24

RendezvousBientot · 14/06/2026 09:02

Ha! Love that! The housework needs to be done before anyone takes their clothes off 😆

Brilliant idea! 😆

ExpertInAbsolutelyZero · 14/06/2026 13:11

Angela59 · 14/06/2026 09:00

Go girl!!!
Enjoyed my own style for years
and
It can get all your housework done !
😂

I’ll second that, my good lady enlightened me.

NinaOakley · 17/06/2026 10:06

RendezvousBientot · 14/06/2026 09:02

Ha! Love that! The housework needs to be done before anyone takes their clothes off 😆

Someone once offered himself to me as a naked slave…

onetrickponee · 17/06/2026 11:53

NinaOakley · 17/06/2026 10:06

Someone once offered himself to me as a naked slave…

and you said yes , obviously

Chatterlyssecret · 17/06/2026 16:12

You could find them around every corner if you are brave enough to put yourself out there , without joining the awful meat market sites.

NinaOakley · 18/06/2026 00:02

onetrickponee · 17/06/2026 11:53

and you said yes , obviously

I really wanted to but my husband would have noticed!

ExpertInAbsolutelyZero · 18/06/2026 12:36

NinaOakley · 18/06/2026 00:02

I really wanted to but my husband would have noticed!

You should have told your husband to man up and be your naked slave 🤣

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