Age gap fantasies

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Ever since I was in my early 20’s I always had a thing for older men, not really old but a 10-20 year age gap, it’s always been a huge fantasy of myn.
Is this a common fantasy that men and women have?

I've always had a thing since I was younger for older women. I can pinpoint the start of it to a short fling I had when I was 18 with a woman who was 30.

I had a thing for older, experienced men when I was younger, but now I’m middle aged anything more than five years either side feels icky.

When I was younger I had a huge thing for older women, I think perhaps because I didn't connect that well with women my age by comparison at that point in my life.

That's worn off over the years, there are still certain physical or situational things that I often fantasise over but as far as age goes that range has narrowed.

Yes. I think the reality is that most people (no matter what sex) have given this fantasy thought. A good % have also probably gone through with it too.

I don't, and never have either.

I'm attracted to men. Their age isn't a barrier to me.

I've slept with men up to 15 years younger. Only 5 years older. But not through design. If I found a man 20 years older than me attractive, I'd be fine with it.

I always have a fantasy for older men and I have acted on it too, and have had fantastic experiences.

It will die once you get to 49 like me.
Older men - 🤢

I have always preferred older men and my first was 20 years older than me

I was about 50 I sex with a 70 woman and another about the same When I was about 60 I had a woman who was 82 They all lighted sex a lot

Yes, male and have always fantasised about older women. In my teens it was mums and neighbours, now in my 40s I still have fantasies about older women

Any fantasy is fine, older, younger, size differences, race differences, everyone’s beautiful and everyone will be a surprise and success in their own way. Sex is a beautiful thing and should be enjoyed and not taken for granted

My first husband and all previous partners were my age and boring. I met my now husband 15 yrs ago. He’s almost 10 yrs older and he’s amazing! Absolutely the answer to all my older man fantasies.

Another man that’s always had a thing for older women ever since I was a teenager.

In fact, when I was about 18-19 I had a couple of dirty mags exclusively featuring women in their 40s and 50s ☺️

The older woman younger woman lesbian dynamic has always been a favourite fantasy of mine.

My partner is 63 and I'm 55. All my partners, except the first have been older than me. Long may it reign. I remember at University, I went to bed with a woman of 52. I met her in a pub in Stoke. She was adorable.

I have always fancied old woman. Now im old I like all women, younger or older

I find it rather comforting having an older partner. It feels more secure, in some ways. I'm not sure why that is, but that's the dynamic.

If you meet the right person, age just doesn’t matter. 👍

Well, it's not often I find out I've 'lived the fantasy' on here! 😂

Curious what people find attractive about older men, is it mostly the experience and confidence, or something more specific? And for anyone who’s been in an age-gap relationship, how did it work day to day? Did the power dynamic ever feel unbalanced, or was that less of a thing than it looks from the outside?

Only speaking for my own experience, I just think older men are more interesting and generally better at holding a conversation, more 'manly' and more attractive in my eyes.

It works exactly the same as any other relationship; it depends on the 2 people involved and their connection. I certainly haven't received any negative comments about it and my Husband only used to get complimented on marrying a younger woman.

I wasn't looking for an older man, it just happened that way.

At no point have I thought "wow those 'x' number of years between us are really showing now". It's just not the way it is.

Over ten year gap. Been together 25 years.

The power dynamic mismatch mantra that is inevitably trotted out on MN when younger woman older man relationships are discussed just doesn’t exist. Never has. After working and socialising together for a couple of years we realised there was a mutual attraction and got together. It was that simple. We have very similar values although quite different backgrounds. I made the first move. No fantasies involved.

20 year difference.

Never an issue.

It's the same as any other relationship; it either works or it doesn't.