Ideas for night away for husbands birthday

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Hi everyone, I’m looking for ideas and suggestions for things to do to/with my husband on a night away I’ve booked for his birthday.

For context we’re late 30s, have been together a long time and have 2 young kids. Our sex life has been ok but on the vanilla side and since having kids it’s been very up and down.

We’re staying in a fancy hotel with a spa which we’ll spend the afternoon in but I’d really welcome any suggestions to make it a memorable night for us and to reignite our spark!

Thanks in advance

Push the boundaries on dressing sexy and being flirtatious, tease him a little and flirt a lot, suggest the barman’s nice with a wicked smile
Men seem to love a flirty bird and he will be dying to get you back to the room, so resist for as long as possible to ensure a jolly good seeing too!

Good luck xx

1. If he’s bought you some sexy lingerie in the past then wear it, even if it’s not really your thing.
2. Or buy a cheap pair of handcuffs and blindfold, tie him to the bedpost, pleasure him, ride him and then sit on his face and use his tongue on you.
3. Or both…

My little trick is to wear stockings as opposed to tights, I generally hate them but I know it's his thing, and then make sure at some point in the evening to run his hand over them so he feels them through my dress. Builds up some tension for him.

Or the other thing is to get back to your room, send him for a shower then when he comes back be on the bed in your chosen "special" underwear, or DH's favourite of Birthday Suit and Heels

Obviously though, it's about your pleasure as well! But pushing boundaries when you're in a location other than your own home always seems a little easier

Surely the last thing to do on his Birthday, in a vanilla relationship, is say you fancy the barman?

It's obviously really personal, and depends what you want and what you think he might like.

But...being away and having a full day are the things you can't re-create at home easily so you need to capitalise on these. This is a list of things, not a recommendation to do them all, but this is what's best done for this sort of opportunity.

Time and privacy to be someone else altogether - role play, dressing up. Teasing, edging. Not my dynamic, but the being picked up in a bar routine. Something either too noisy or too messy to try at home? Take advantage of the spa and extend the massage.

You've a chance, too, if you're both aligned to set the tone/expectation leading up to weekend.

Have fun!

Take a look at a website called Bluebella they have some beautiful lingerie especially in there “ Provocative section “ . Do you normally play together with a vibrator ? If not show him how you mastrubate and ask him to replicate this ,he will love that .

Make sure the hotel room has a well stocked mini-bar and Sky TV so he can watch the footie while you go to the spa?

I’m assuming you’re joking?!

For me I wouldn’t go all out. I enjoy being able to properly relax in bed without interruption. Doze. Have sex. Spend ages on foreplay. Eat. Spa. Perfection.

Has the spa got a pool?

Yes I was thinking that! My partner wouldn’t be pleased with that and if he told me he fancied the waitress he wouldn’t be getting any sex that night! Or ever!

When we go away to a spa or a couples break , as well as taking lingerie, I always take stuff like candles, massage oil, champagne to sneak into the room :) sometimes not all of this is used but it’s nice to have to hand then you can do what suits both your moods. As you have dc it’s going to be special anyway being away, switching off and taking advantage of being away ( sex that night and in the morning I think would be my preference in this situation). Enjoy :)