Up the bum?

[GentleJadeOP]

Can I just ask, do any women actually enjoy it or pretend like porn stars do? It’s just so painful and I can’t work out why a woman would enjoy it? Another thread currently running gives the impression is a big ‘No’ so I just thought id ask. Out of curiosity really as no intention of ever doing it again 🤣

Never done it, never wanted to do it, DH has never suggested doing it.

I very much enjoy it. The closeness of our bodies and how much it turns him on turns me on. The right amount of lube helps as too much and it's a sloppy mess, too little and it's sore. There has never been any mess or poo anywhere.
Occasionally the cum enema can produce a speedy expulsion a while later mind you.

To add to my earlier comments, having been concerned by something I’ve read on another thread, there is one ingredient even more important than any lube. That is consent! Individual consent for that specific act.

I get that the sensory appeal has to be less, but for those women who don't dislike it (and no judgement on those that do dislike it), have you tried and enjoyed being the 'giver'?

Personally I think it’s revolting but each to their own!

Only tried it once, total failure and would never try again.

But how would one deal with piles? It was bad enough having conventional sex when my piles were flaring, the thought of doing anything that would cause them to rise up again puts me off even the very thought.

It’s a good way to give yourself a UTI

Only if you disregard the usual hygiene rules around that area!
@OpalFruitsMakeYourMouthWater are you speaking from personal experience?

No personal experience! Just know stuff.

You are stating this as if it's a fact @OpalFruitsMakeYourMouthWater .
I've never had a UTI caused by having anal sex despite regularly partaking

Maybe you should Google it. I also work in healthcare.

I’ve been having anal at least 3 times a weak for 10 years and can honestly say I’ve never had a uti. I take proper hygiene precautions, nothing goes near my vagina that has been up my bum.

Completely agree with @MrsBrollie "Anal sex causes UTIs" is something I'd expect to hear in church, not the healthcare system.
Use a condom for PIA and take it off/change it before PIV. If there was a mechanism that could lead to a UTI from anal sex, butt plugs would cause them (which they don't) and condoms wouldn't protect against STIs (which they do).

Well, after 28 years in healthcare, I could tell you some stories.

Maybe @OpalFruitsMakeYourMouthWater you should have given a disclaimer. If you don't use the right hygiene precautions you will get a UTi rather than the sweeping statement that you posted

I'm sure you could, but I stand by what I said.

Enjoy it very much when I'm in the mood.

with a touch of lube it feels great to me!

It's not for everyone and is something of a minority interest, at least among women. I've had plenty of conversations with female friends about sex over the years, and in my social circles I'd guess it's roughly 1 in 10 who enjoy it, of those who've mentioned the matter. Not representative of the wider population, of course.

I was curious about it as a youngster, once I became aware that it was possible, and was fortunate to have a very gentle introduction to the practice with a former partner, so from the outset I was aware that it was was possible to accommodate fingers, toys and even a penis with comfort in an erotic context. Feels very full, but it needn't be painful. If it hurts, someone needs to back off!

id agree with all of this. Interesting that your experience is 1/10 women partake. I wonder if that’s accurate. I have no idea!

Well, others say they have some experience of it, but like posters on here, have experienced pain, suffered with inconsiderate or coercive partners, or fear injury.

I spotted this piece in the journal Sexual Medicine earlier this year

DOI: 10.1093/sexmed/qfaf037
It concerned what might be pleasureable among their sample of women and men and some observations concernign the underlyign anatomy that might make this possible. Again, I dunno if you could argue that it's a representative sample of the population as a whole, but it also provides a useful review of other related research in the introduction to the paper.

An interesting survey with interesting results, especially in relation to gender and age.
I'm surprised and a little disappointed that, whilst the discussion observes "the pudendal nerve also innervates the external anal sphincter and perianal skin, creating pleasure from anal play and insertion", the study didn't distinguish between (or possibly didn't consider) anal/perianal vs superficial rectal pleasure sites.

I love it but they have to be below average/average size, plenty lube and slow start. But once it relaxes it feels incredible, some of my best orgasms.

@GentleJadeOP

i love it at the right time

Another fan here. Once you have enough lube and take the initial penetration slowly, it is lovely. I don’t do any special prep beforehand, apart from lube, and it’s never been messy or unpleasant.