Grower not a shower

[CestLaVieYouSee]

Hi all, looking for a bit of advice, you will see many threads on here talking about penis size, and if it’s too small it could be a deal breaker. Well hoping to get on the dating bandwagon again and for some reason being a bit self conscious, I would say erect I’m 6” which isn’t massive but I think I do okay with it, but soft it goes very small like 1” if that. Should I be a little conscious that females may think it too small? Or do you ladies really (talking about dtd wise) only care what it’s like erect and more importantly how it’s used and mutual pleasure vs the soft size?

Oh bless, well I hope your luck improves soon, like im hoping mine will 🙌🏼

If a penis drought is a thing is the male equivalent a fanny famine?

What happens during sport 😳

The definition is based on the stretched penis length and is 2.5 std deviations below the average. The definition is not based on flaccid size.

Literally the only size that matters is can you feel him once your penetrated. If not say goodbye but don't tell him the reason. My friend was married for 8 years, two children but she made the mistake, through drink Christmas party, to sample a guy she was dancing with. She could feel his erection as they danced closely. Her curiosity was peaked and she wanted to know what this would feel like, she said it was a revelation to her and she realised that she had never really experienced sex before.
Once you feel a well endowed man in you, there is no return, she divorced her husband. She felt that she was too young (32) to live the rest of her life never experiencing real sex, she said said the only way she could stay married was if her husband allowed her to occasionally satisfy her needs with other men, her husband refused this compromise so they went their own separate ways. So basically don't go down this road thinking it will be all right.

I disagree, couldn't care less about well endowed tbh. I much prefer someone who knows what they're doing than someone banging off my cervix. I must admit though I'd be shocked at someone with a 1 inch dick. If i knew you by then though and you were kind, honest and loyal and knew what you were doing in bed then I would certainly get over it. Men like that are like fucking gold dust.

I agree with this ( Although admittedly I’m not a woman and have never had a penis inside me) but also, it isn’t a ‘one size fits all’

i’m actually in the unusual position of having both a much larger than average penis and one that is very much average ( although my wood ruler says I’m a little above average 😂)

Before my implant and ED issues, I guess I fell in the category of men who thought a big dick was all a woman wanted and it was the size of the ship that mattered and not the motion of the waves.

Since my implant, and now a good 3’ shorter; my views on sex have changed, and I am much more attentive and therefore the sex is much more enjoyable for both.

it’s similar I guess to unattractive men laughing a woman into bed whilst an obviously good looking bloke thinks his looks are all that matters.

if I was given the option of my original dick, or my very average 6’ dick, i think i’d stick with what I have,

Honestly, my DP is a grower, and whilst I was surprised thé first time I saw him flaccid, it doesn't change anything for me. We had already done the deed and had fun, so I knew thubgs would be ok.

what definitely matters is how attentive your partner is, and for my part, I make sure I do my kegels. It is teamwork, after all!

''who knows what they're doing''. This isn't rocket science , the cock go is in and out and round about, fast and slow blah blah. But if he's not well enough endowed so that you can feel he's inside you and feel that stretch, then it's pretend sex. If your sexual priorities are low then I suppose it doesn't matter, you can both cuddle up at night on the settee and watch TV.

Perhaps you and MisterT373 are within range of each other. He followed your message with one expressing he may be in a drought also 😉

@CestLaVieYouSee FWIW I would probably think it was cute! I like to have my husbands flaccid penis in my mouth and feel it grow… fun! So some lady might enjoy that with yours.

also- one of my one night stands (of which I have only had 2!) turned out to be a two night stand as he was so bloody good in bed- but he deffo had a teeny penis. Even effect it wasn’t big. But boy did he make up for it in other ways- mouth, fingers etc. He had clearly learnt to use his skills to bring a woman to orgasm so many times before he orgasmed himself that you really didn’t care what size his penis was. If I’d wanted a LTR with him he could have had a dildo I guess if I’d kissed the girth or lengthy- but tbh I wouldn’t as he really was great in bed. Only my DH has exceeded him… and even then that’s more been about the connection.

so please try not to worry.

I always find this conversation strange. Never, as a boy, teenager or gown adult have I ever physically measured myself. Why would I? When I come back from a cold winters run you'd need a magnifying glass to see it but put me in front of Eva Green and its more than up to the job...does it really matter?

Very few people measure, other than insecure men. What I said was originally, ''the only size that matters is can you feel him once your penetrated''.

Great advice thank you :)

Love this response, thank you so much vert reassuring 😊