Consent

[ArtemisFlop]

Someone please talk to me about this. Specifically in relation to condoms. So, for example, if you’ve been really clear it’s a boundary that you wear condoms, and you spend hours having sex wearing condoms, and during the same occasion, there’s an instance where you have sex and the person isn’t wearing a condom, and you initially don’t realise but when you realise you stop. Is that without consent?

Removing a condom when one of the participants isn't looking or is unaware, is in my opinion the same as committing any other sexual act without consent.
Nothing should be done without explicitly or implicitly asking for consent. Especially when there was a conversation about condom use beforehand!

Imagine that we were talking about him initiating anything else. Like going anal for example. Or making a video of you in the act. Or inviting a friend of his in the room for a threesome. Or maybe having sex with you in a very public place with people watching

Sorry, I found the whole 'I got lost in the moment' comment to be ridiculous. Come on, we can expect more from people. And we do. If any of the above examples would have happened, he would be considered a rapist. We can expect people - men - to enjoy sex without losing all sense of boundaries. We're not animals for goodness sake.