Ultra hygienic??

[PinotGrigioGirl]

Ok so it’s been a hot sweaty summer day. My partner and I had a shower first thing this morning. I made moves tonight to show that I was wanting some intimacy but also indicated that it would be good to have a wash first. He says it’s so clinical and “ultra hygienic” and that’s basically a bad thing. I’m not thinking it’s unreasonable in this hot weather to be fresh before getting intimate….am I being unreasonable??

No, and he’s missing a “shower play” treat !
His loss.

YANBU. When it’s hotter weather, and tbh most days anyway- we shower before bed. If it’s not fresh I’m not putting it in my mouth. If he fancied a quickie I wouldn’t mind so much… but anything more, shower!

Always Shower you don’t know where it been 😂

I do see his point but we usually shower first - it’s just good manners!

There are times when a quickie is nice, but otherwise we always shower before sex.

We almost always have oral sex and we both expect the other to be freshly washed.

If it’s PIV only…fine. If it’s oral, I’d be expecting a courtesy wash too.

I am always clean getting into bed anyway regardless of if we have sex or not. I have a bath or a shower every morning and evening. If he was hot and sweaty I wouldn't be bothered as long as he didn't smell but I wouldn't give him oral without a wash after he's had a day at work in the heat.

It depends. Personally I prefer a slightly lived in odour when having fun especially when DATY. Ultra clean and soap is not a turn on.

Don't forget males of all species are attracted to the right phermonal smell.

@PinotGrigioGirl both of you get intimate in the shower 🚿, use scented soaps etc..I guarantee you will both enjoy the experience ✊🏿