Partner and I , have potential dead bedroom brewing for months , I have to initiate 90% of the time and that’s at a rate of once per week, I have tried to just not and see if he does but nope nothing. I try mentioning lingerie, being sexy and still nothing, We have spoken about it (he started the conversation) but I feel like he’s not interested in sex with me unless it’s to his kinks, I know he would have sex with previous partners multiple times a week, there are no issues as such in his life to cause a lack of libido. It’s affecting my confidence because I could lay next to him naked and he is so flaccid. I’ve got to the point that if I have to make him hard then he’s just not that into it (and or me) , AIBU - to just not even try anymore, feels like he’s content to never have sex and just spend time together( which is great to want to spend time but given that he was intimate with exes multiple times a week and me barely anything makes me feel like he’s just not that into me sexually )