Without sounding like an idiot, how do I do on top?

[Peanut82]

So, I’m in a relationship for around a year now. In my previous relationship the sex was okay but always either missionary or from behind.
My new partner wants me to try on top but im nervous as I haven’t done it before. Do I thrust? Or do I move up and down if that makes sense? Feel like an absolute idiot asking this at my age but any advice would be appreciated

Whatever movement makes it go in and out, and whatever feels good. Multitude of angles and sub positions available depending on the position of your hips and the angle of your body. Can't really explain in words. Might get slated for this suggestion, but maybe go and watch some 'nice' porn where the woman is on top. You don't even need piv for it to be enjoyable - just grinding on his penis can be great in this position too.

Also, good sex is mostly about seeming confident, so fake it until you make it (don't ask him if you're doing it right, or if you should be doing it differently etc). Woman on top is about woman in control, so don't be submissive, but equally, he can guide your movement with his hands if he wants to.

There is a really good instagram post about this from the lovely Jenny Keane. Won’t link but definitely look it up! She has a position that is a lot more comfortable and low effort.

then you can decide if you want to grind/thrust etc. experiment with what gives you the most pleasure.

https://www.webmd.com/sex/what-is-cowgirl-position

Another thing I’d say is while you’re practicing what feels good for you, distract him with eye contact, kissing, and giving him a nice face of boobs to enjoy 😂. He will be so delighted by that he won’t notice anything else! My OH like to lay back with his hands behind his head and watch me. Sometimes I press down on his arms like I’m pinning him down too.

lots of women orgasm in this position but I don’t so we rarely do it for a whole session. But it’s definitely fun to add in

This woman is brilliant. I used to hate reverse cowgirl until I tried her method. Now feels great and can do it for much longer.

Do what ever feels good for you ( and your OH )

My OH likes me to wear a silicone cock ring with some vibrating rabbit ears for her clit, it definitely makes things a little more interesting!

it tends to be our morning position as she’s an early bird and as I’m still half asleep I don’t need to do very much 😂 But I love grabbing her ass and lifting her up and down on me….

You both need to be moving against each other rather than the one on top doing all the work. My husband grabs my hips and bum and thrusts into me as I grind against his movements. Sometimes he will hold my head firmly ( but not too hard) to "lock" me in place and he takes over.

Going on top is to my “go to” position to orgasm from. I hope you find it works just as well for you, once you get into it and find what suits you best

Unless you have insane calf strength, make sure you put all of your weight on him as you straddle him and don’t squat over him. He should help with movement too. I think in most cases this comes naturally/instinctively to the man but if it doesn’t, try to encourage him. If you get tired you can lay on top of him and let/ask him to do the work (hard, slow…however you like), or if you get into it and you really want to drive him crazy: circular motions as you push all of your weight into his groin. This is one of my go to orgasm tricks too. It’s great for both.

Lots of suggestions to try 😜 be relaxed, ease down carefully , till you’re comfortable and then both of you move in motion, just to let you know, not allladies can take all of it, so just be comfortable, and yes, reverse rides are fun to progress on to assell as striding with one leg outside thighs, one inside etc but just have fun exploring what suits you and you too will enjoy enhanced orgasms…I love it when I see my lady legs ‘shaking’ out of control as she orgasms!✊🏿

Thank you everyone!

I adore being on top and in control.

It all depends on body shapes and angles for direct instructions so I would just say try every variation and see what feels the best for the both of you.

Enjoy!