Feel like his penis doesn't fit me?!

[DoingMyBestHere]

My DP has a massive penis 😆 I don't know how big it is in inches but I can stack two hands on it and there's still more of it.
What i don't understand is despite that, I can't seem to get much friction (girth isn't an issue either). Without wanting to sound crude, I'm pretty tight so that isn't the problem either.
Because he's so big there are a lot of positions that can actually be painful, and I sometimes find it frustrating that we can't just go fir it because he has to hold back a bit.
It's hard to describe but in some ways it just feels like he doesn't quite "fit" me properly, plus I'm not getting a sense of friction unless we do it while spooning.
What's going on here?! Is it a problem with our particular shapes or something? It doesn't feel bad or anything, just not "moreish".

@DoingMyBestHere gyal u need to relax…..in yiur mind you putting up barrier due to your DP size…you saying him massive.? compared too? .??

Errr compared to the many other penises I've seen?

No advice but this was the same for me many years ago when I had a boyfriend who was very large. It wasn't a good thing. It was painful and awkward and he was very self conscious, didn't want to hurt me. Size isn't always an advantage, I learned.

I've experienced this with previous partners, I do feel sometimes that regardless of size sometimes it's just not working for me. I've been with really big guys who were amazing, and similar sized guys where it was disappointing. Can I ask how long you've been together, and whether this has always been the case, or if something has changed?

We've been together 8 years and it's always been that way. Sex isn't bad at all, we have a lot of foreplay and it's great. I was just interested to see whether there's some kind of hack, like maybe a position we haven't thought of, or maybe some kind of accessory. Now I'm wondering whether a cock ring could help in some way (we are pretty tame really, we've always been more sensual than kinky focused if you get me).

What i don't get is how it could simultaneously feel too big AND there not be enough friction. How is that possible! I actually prefer it when he uses his fingers on me. That's why I'm wondering whether there's also something about how a specific penis + specific vagina "fit" together that can sometimes not quite "work". Hope I'm making sense!

Are you using plenty of lube?

Hi op

There are products you can buy to reduce length. The original is the Ohnut £60. lovehoney sell a buffer set for £30 that may be worth a try.

Lube was a solution to a similar problem a few weeks ago. Good silicone lube may again be worth a try even though you want more friction.

If you have never been on it A website called Kinkly has a comprehensive position guide which also includes shallow penetration positions for big penis sex . 🍆🍆🍆

As @Aworldofoptions has said, it would be worth looking at Oh Nut (or the cheaper versions) to see if you think they would help. They are often recommended by sexual health staff working in the NHS.

The Ohnut seems like a good option, never seen it before! Also as others have said, lube lube lube. I would also say that yes, why not introduce toys, a new adventure where you just keep trying stuff until you find something that works.

There are sleeves for men that go over the penis. More designed for smaller men I guess, but they do also change the sensation, you can get more ribbed ones etc. Although if hes already really girth you may find it tricky.

Have you also tried more simple things, like pillows under your back to change the angles. Or a swing opens up all the different angles.

@DoingMyBestHere i find my ladies were more comfortable for me to take them from behind…’doggie style’ ofc plenty of lube and plenty of foreplay beforehand to ensure she was well moist….allowing my partner to ease herself and ‘ride me as much as she could take…., or on yiur back, legs pushed up to tour shoulders, lifts your hips cheeks up…slip a pillow under ….?

@daphney , YIU e found ways to enjoys us ‘extra’types , ofc it may not be to everyone liking.as long as there is mutual pleasure then it can be so thrilling for both✊🏿

There are ways to enjoy all types right 😊"extra" or not. Just have to think outside the box a little. trial and error and experimentation 😂

@daphney mutual sexual exploration is exciting and deepens the pleasures for both….I’m sure you were surprised at some of the experimentation😉✊🏿

Can someone bless me with this particular issue... Pls🙏

Agreed! I'd love a very large penis, have never had one

Hive been together 8 years and it’s now only a problem lol?

I’m larger than most I’m told and I’ve always found it’s best for my partners to be on top with lots of lube and then they can go at their own pace and depth until they’re comfortable and then normally they settle in and enjoy most positions

Maybe try those positions that hurt with more lube? In any case, try to work it out. I've been with guys that were very big (but nothing serious came out) and now I'm with someone who is rather small, and if you don't feel everything you want with your big boyfriend, with someone else it's not going to get better.